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Peter91 · Dec 13, 2007, 06:22 PM

I am 16 and have been dating my girlfriend for about 8 monthes. The last couple monthes, I have been feeling bored in our relationship. I don't find myself as attracted to her, I don't make as much effort to be with her as I did, and I find myself constantly thinking about ending the relationship. I feel guilty when I say I love her, because I'm not really sure if I do. I care about her and our relationship and I try to act like nothing is wrong but she can tell that I am a little distant. She has redoubled her efforts to try to preserve the relationship. I feel bad because I am not doing all of my part, but I also don't want to fake my feelings. She is extremely attached to me, so I feel like breaking up with her might crush her. Can someone give me some advice on what I should do?

talaniman · Dec 13, 2007, 07:40 PM

Be honest kind and let her know as soon as possible how you feel. She will hurt, and eventually heal. Dragging it out only leads to lying, and faking it and that's so much worse.

enjay22 · Dec 13, 2007, 07:43 PM

Ohhh gee.
Well, I think that you need to sit down with her and tell her all of this.
Because, I was kind of in the same situation.
And I wonder... me & him were together for about 9 months. And we broke up..
Do guys really just get.. tierd of it?
Does it by any chance have to do with sex?
Have you two done it? Cause that could be possibly why she is so attached.

But honestly, I really think that you need to be more focused on telling the truth, then worried about hurting her feelings, because, she will get over it. And it will be really really hard, but she will. && you will too.

lhemilie202 · Dec 13, 2007, 07:53 PM

If you don't feel it you need to be honest she will be hurt but its o lot better than letting things continue and you end up doing it when more time has passed and she grows more attached it won't be easy but you are young just be honest

Peter91 · Dec 13, 2007, 08:26 PM

Yes enjay, we have done it. I do feel that it was too early when I think back to it. I saw her in a massive dose at the beginning, we saw each other everyday for a month and then as much as permitted after. I do not feel that passion that I did at first (perhaps the whole thing was infatuation?), but it seems like the more I pull away the more she tries to bring me back. She is wonderful and sweet and generous so I feel horrible having the feelings that I do.

I'm still very mixed up about the whole situation. I have sort of gotten used to our situation, and I love her but I'm not necessarily in love with her. I am nervous about what will happen if we decide to end it

jjaja · Dec 13, 2007, 08:29 PM

Originally Posted by Peter91

I am 16 and have been dating my girlfriend for about 8 monthes. The last couple monthes, I have been feeling bored in our relationship. I dont find myself as attracted to her, I dont make as much effort to be with her as I did, and I find myself constantly thinking about ending the relationship. I feel guilty when I say I love her, becuase I'm not really sure if I do. I care about her and our relationship and I try to act like nothing is wrong but she can tell that I am a little distant. She has redoubled her efforts to try to preserve the relationship. I feel bad because I am not doing all of my part, but I also dont want to fake my feelings. She is extremely attached to me, so I feel like breaking up with her might crush her. Can someone give me some advice on what I should do?

Just tell her how u really feel and hopefully you can work it out. But lying to her is the worst thing to do in a relationship. Goodluck!