Okayy.. so today I had gotten a preganancy test. My boyfriend and I used a condom though. I just wanted to be on a safe side to check. The results came out negative. So my stepfather who is married to my mom. My stepfather was in my life of the age of 4. Okay he finds the wrapper of the pregancy test and ask me so I explained to him that it was just to be on the safe side even though I used a condom. I was just trying to be smart because most condoms aren't so protective I learned that in health class. So he gets upset and tells me that I cannot see my boyfriend anymore and calls my boyfriend and say stay away from my daughter. I really felt hurt because I love him and he does too and he I not like any other guy I met before which is very rare in today's society. My mom had talked to me why my dtepfather did I was crying of course. And my mom explained that my stepfather only did that because he was upset which I understood. So my mom gave me advice hoe guys are today and I explained to her that my boyfriend isn't like everybody else and they were genralizing him to others dudes which wasn' true. It and hurts me and my mom tells me about her teenage years and she seems to don't understand that I am not her I am more wiser because today society seems very different. My parents said that my boyfriend will bounce on me when he goes to college and he won't be thinking about me and that kind of hurts to hear such negative feedback from my own. Also they said I am going to be very emotional and tec but they are making situtations even more worse than it is so of cousre I am going to be a bit depressed he is going to college very soon and it's driving me crazy. And I don't want to be paranoid about what he is doing because my parents washed my brain with all these negative sayings which isn't true. But to come find out that my father won't break us apart my mom said that I have to learn my mistakes on my own but I don'think being with my boyfriend is a mistake. :(

Your parents are acting like parents. Forgive them for their over-reaction, because it's part of their job description.

In 20 years, picture yourself looking down into the trash can of your own sweet little girl in pig-tails (who's really 16 now) and finding a condom wrapper or a pregnancy test kit. Picture that for a moment... perhaps you'll understand them.

But regardless, forgive them. They love you. It makes them crazy, as it will you.

As for the rest... dear everyone who's talking to you and giving you advice and trying to console... they're all pretty much right. Unless they're wrong. It's a crap shoot.

Like it or not, although your guy is unique, he also IS like every other guy. He's also special and you love him and it's sweet and you had a special scary intimate time with him. All of that is real. But it's also not real, meaning until you walk down the aisle with a man who's ready to declare you as "the one and none other, forsaking all others..."... well, until then you're just dating.

Make the smartest "now" choices you can make. You've already seen what being intimate with your boyfriend can lead to. It's a stress and panic you don't really need, do you? You can keep having sex, but best keep the pregnancy tests coming, too, then, huh?

Guys DO go off to college and meet new people and fall in love. They DO that. It's normal.

Anything CAN and anything WILL happen unless you're partly in control of your "now" moments. You'll be able to affect some of it, but some things are simply not really controllable. For good or for bad, in your opinion, things are going to continue to unfold the way they're going to.

So, enjoy the ride as long as it's going on. When it's over, don't worry, there's a new adventure-ride right there for you, remember this one for what it was, remember it fondly, don't think badly of it or those who rode with you just because it's over. That's not necessary.

Then enjoy the new ride. There will be many.

Of course, you don't think being with your boyfriend is a mistake. How old are you? Sixteen? I remember my first boyfriend, when I was sixteen. I thought he was "the one", and I couldn't imagine why our parents seemed hell-bent against us having any real "alone" time. Now, I know. No matter how mature you think you are, or wise... this is not the guy you are going to spend "forever" with. Trust me. Your parents know this, and it's killing your dad that some guy has taken his little girl's innocence. As JBeaucaire stated, you will know this feeling yourself one day, when you discover what your own little girl has been up to.

Since you purchased a pregnancy test, your folks are rightly concerned that you may become pregnant... an even that would change your life forever. Like any other parents on the planet earth, they wish for you to have an education and a job before producing children. As much as you think they are misunderstanding your situation, they are absolutely correct. As much as you might hate the idea, I hope that you can trust your folks.

Take care,
Ren... a former sixteen year old.

I'm glad to see that you somewhat understand you'r dads,<step> reaction.I personally feel like he's a little out of bounds,however that is what love is all about.you'r parents are nail biting at what is to become of you,and although they may jump to conclusions does this make them completely wrong?just because YOU are being somewhat safe that doesn't take away from what they feel,and that is all the questions they have,is he the right guy? Cut them some slack be grateful that you have them.
As for the guy going off you will handle that in you'r own way if he keeps in touch so be it,if it runs dry move on.. Good Luck

My parents are the same way except I am 19 now and I just had a baby with a life long step dad and everything and I have been with my boyfriend since I was16 and I'm am currently live with my parents until I can save enough and move out. And I go back to college in January.but my dad (step) and boyfriend have been going at it for two months now. And I'm in the middle trying to respect my parents yet maintain a relationship with my boyfriend at the same time its not easy especially if you have been sheltered all your life by island parents and trying to be an adult, girlfriend and a mother for your child and boyfriend. My boyfriend is a great dad to my daughter and he treats me right. My mother likes him but sometimes lets my dad influence her into thinking negative thoughts about my boyfriend. It's the worst feeling ever. I wish someone could help me.