Hey all,


Let's face it. Relationships put probably the biggest strain on you're whole well being and mental state. Whether the relationship is going well or not, your mind is constantly racing and wondering the whole time. Wondering what the other person is up to, or if they are even the right one. Or even wondering if they even love you like they say they do.

Then one day, for some odd reason, the relationship ends. Sometimes we are puzzled why it even ended, so we resort to forums like this for help.

Go back in all my posts, I have been there. I have been the one sitting there going "what the hell just happened" EVEN though I am the one that ended it (our relationship ended on unique terms)

So... you go NC for a while thinking it's the magic bullet. At first it doesn't seem bad at all, then one day your depressed about something and that depression leads to you thinking about your ex. Wanting to just see them, to feel them, yadda yadda. This can go on for months, this in and out feeling towards your previous love (or lust).

I am here to tell you, yes you, the one reading this with a heart full of so much pain you can almost break. That one day it just clicks, and it stays "clicked". Sure, there will be days you think your over your past love, then come to find out your not a few days after that. But, soon, there will be that ONE time where it just all clicks. And your blown away, and just start thinking of all the good times you used to have with your ex but have no desire to see, speak, or even get back with that person.

Trust that it it most likely your ego that is causing you this pain. Trust that ANY person out there (if you let them like you did your ex) can make you feel the SAME joy as you did with your ex... and what they were to you wasn't some type of magic or hypnosis that only they could do.


As a guy, what helped me out a lot was just going out and meeting new people. Get involved with Pick Up and seduction and learn how to meet new women. Change your style, go to the gym, look great! You don't want to be the depressed ugly one that you ex looks and says "wow, he can't live with out me". That does nothing but confirm her decision of leaving you. A lot of people care what there ex thinks, I don't. But if you do, at least make them look at you and say "wow, he looks amazing and desireable to all women" this will instantly make her want you again. But don't go back, repeat relationships DON'T work in most cases.

THE ONLY way to get over this stuff is to suck it up and get back out there. Meet other women, and have your "good times". Go out with the guys. Sitting in your room sulking will get you no where.

It's time for you now (the one that matters most)

B

Amen.

I second that Amen.

Yep
Good post

Oh so true... but oh so hard to live by these words!!

Nice post... I really wish it can be so mechanical & easy to forget your love... but ah... its not... I really wish I could follow up your words... I will definitely try to do this... be happy...

Great for you dude... It takes... u... to make a difference in your life!! And you go... you figured it out... when you love yourself, feel good about yourself, you will find the right person to complete u.

You can't just forget your love but you can start practicing some positive steps to increase the time that it takes to get over it. It's hard because the brain wants to go negative but it's can also be fun challenging your own brain and coming to some realizations about where you stand and who you are and the growth that you can take from the negative situation.

(Assumed) Correction above :)

Good post though, great insights