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    alysun Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 17, 2008, 07:43 AM
    Obsessed with an ex
    Okay so I think I'm totally obsessed with my ex! I find myself begging for him to take me back... how do I stop this? I kind of want to play his game and give that feeling like I'm just whatever about everything, but I don't want him to think that I don't want to be with him. One minute he will say "oh i love you so much i can't wait to see you" and the next he will be like "we can't be together i dont even know if we should be talking" what is up with that! Should I give up or try to get him back?
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    Jul 17, 2008, 08:02 AM
    Read the 4 stickies at the top of the forum page. Then start what we call No Contact, which means delete his number, myspace, e-mail. Anything to get in touch with him, change your number if need be
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    Jul 17, 2008, 08:39 AM
    You can keep after him regardless of his position, but that requires a lot of fortitude on your part. You see, during that whole time you CAN'T be despairing about his not responding. You know in advance this is a one-sided thing and you're doing it on the slim chance he will come around. So this is all about you and keeping your goal in sight and NOT putting your mental stability in jeopardy in the process.

    If you can do that, if you can keep your wits about you through it all and not over-dramaticize it, then you can keep after him.

    Everyone, including me, however, will advise you not to. I just want to let you know I admit you CAN try. There is a small iota of a chance it might work out. Experience and history here on the forum indicates it won't, but it might.

    Please don't put your happiness in the barrel with this, though. He's just a guy.
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    Jul 20, 2008, 07:09 PM
    Being obssesed with any one or anything can be unhealthy, and maybe leaving him alone, would be what you need to do. At least that gets you off the emotional rollercoaster, and you might gain a better perspective on your situation.
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    Jul 20, 2008, 07:20 PM
    Have you ever read the book "He's just not that into you?" A friend gave it to me. It was funny AND a big smack in the face. Begging isn't very attractive. It just makes him feel like he knows he can have you and then he doesn't really want you anyway. Get the book!
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