Hi everyone,

I'm pretty sure my mom is depressed and I'm so worried for her. I'm 20years old and I still live with her, she is 45years old.

Everyday she spends inside our house just on the computer. She doesn't have a job or any friends. She never finished high school or go to college. She isn't even looking to find anywhere to work because she has a bad leg but yet she won't go to the government to get disability cheques. She's been able to pay for things because when her father passed away, he left quite a bit of money. The money won't last forever though.
I'm so worried about her. I'm just working a minimum wage job right now. I want to go to college but she told me she doesn't want me to live here for that long. I don't have the money to go back to school right now and after all my personal bills she takes my extra money for rent, even though she doesn't need it. I do agree with paying rent, I'm just in a rut with having barely any money, not being able to go to school and having to move out. ( but that's another story)

I just want her to be happy, its so hard everyday seeing her just isolated on her computer. I'll try to talk to her some days and she just ignores me or is like "yayaya okay" "mmm okay". She never wants to talk about anything.

She has a lot of pain from her past with relationships and I think its gotten her to the point where she doesn't trust anyone. I just don't know what to do anymore. Her physical health is really bad too, and she won't go to the doctor. I've been asking her to please go to the doctor for a check-up for over a year and she refuses say "Nothings ever wrong with you until you go to the doctor and then all of a sudden you find out everything's wrong with you." I'm just afraid I'm going to wake up one day and find her dead. It's really been scaring me lately, I've even been having dreams about it :(

I'm just at a point where I feel like I've tried so much to help her and she just ignores me or refuses to do anything.

I've also told my older brother about what's going on and he just thinks she'll snap out of it. I don't have any other family to go to about it either.

Anyone please help.
Thank you so much.

You brother can take things seriously for once, and take your mom to doctor and also a therapist. Make haste. Force him.

Find someone (therapist, social worker) who will come to your house, for YOU.

I wish your brother could be more helpful in watching out for your mom, but I also think that you would be in a lot better position by being independent, and stable yourself. While your moms isolation is a concern, best shared by both you, and your brother, its hard to be able to help someone else when you haven't helped yourself.

Do you think her "depression" could be concern for YOU?