No calling? No texting? No e-mails? No social networks? No postal service? No smoke signals? No strip-o-grams? No standing under their window with a sofa sized boom hoisted over your head playing some sappy "Please, please, please take me back" kind of music?

Hellooooooo... dumped. Canned. Axed. Let go. Whatever you call it... your toast, baby!

Now, I realize that some of you take this politically correct behavior for breaking up stuff really, really seriously, but all I'm saying is... let's bring back some Fatal Attraction! Let's shake things up and remind the "I loved you yesterday but I have since decided to completely shut you out without so much as a hint of warning today" types that there are some real feelings getting stomped on when they so cold-heartedly send the silent message, "I don't want to talk to you anymore" and expect we somehow telepathically receive that message and will respond with our absolute silence while ultimately disappearing altogether. For those of us without the ability to tap into any real insanity or wreak any significant havoc, may I suggest we simply tap into our immature selves and toilet paper Mr. or Mrs. Break Up's yard? If the social networking sites are doomed to be blocked anyway, why not tap out some conversational litter to toss on their profiles before you go?? I say call and call often! Call at to a.m. when you are really, really drunk over and over and over again. So what if they finally block your number or change their own. It's not like you're losing a viable contact.

No? Don't? Really? But, but, but, but... he hurt me. :(

For the record, I have no intention of ever contacting the man that broke my heart about 3 weeks ago. I have already deleted the number and blocked the social networking sites. I sent 2 emails while I was still figuring out what the hell was going on and 1 more when everything became painfully clear. I texted him once and I "liked" one status message he had posted on Facebook before I put a swift end to my Facebook stalking altogether. Nope, no more contact, but not because I hope he calls me again. There will be no contact because a man who treated me with so little care that his fear of seeing me cry was more important than the respect I deserve.

Somebody, please, explain to me why we are "okay" with the significant others shutting down and shutting out as a form of breaking off a relationship, and seemingly peachy relationships at that? Is it just me or does anyone else want to resist understanding this to be acceptable practice and put more focus on what a jerk thing it is to do to simply pretend you no longer exist than on the level of sanity one displays in realizing they are erased?

Simply

Applying No Contact helps you to move on faster , without all the emotional drama and having feelings of False Hope etc.

Also as a BONUS , you get to keep your dignity :)

And believe me you will not regret that months down the road when your over them.

We talk about No contact because it works.

Toilet papering his yard may make you feel better for a few minutes. Heck, when you're walking out of the police station with a littering ticket in one hand and a restraining order in the other, you may be feeling pretty darn proud of yourself, but then reality will sink in.

No contact works.

Have you seen the movie "Fatal attraction" it didn't work out to well for the stalker. Death in a tub, lots of blood. That's probably why most people don't go down that road.

:( Then you won't drive the getaway car? -sigh- I know, I know.

LOL! No, I won't drive the getaway car.

I won't even bail you out of jail.

I will however be here if you need to talk. We all will, it's what we do.

No contact works. I know that it hurts, I know that it's hard, I know that it seems cruel. Sad fact is, it really works.

So put the toilet paper down, step away from the bunny and go to NC. :)

Do NO CONTACT and you won't need a getaway car ;)

Good luck with the NC and come back and tell us how it goes.