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    hope20 Posts: 7, Reputation: 1
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    #1

    Apr 5, 2009, 02:16 PM
    Make one believe you
    Hope you guys can help me here... my story is sort of puzzling. A love a girl and even proposed her I know she loves me too but she just doesn't want to get into any relationship. She really liked it when I proposed her and told me that she likes me too but its just, she doesn't want to get into any relationship... even now she talks to me but even then... cos a guy has already deceived her, now she doesn't believe anyone and she even told me that. Her roommate is also a very good friend of mine and she says that, she likes you and she is concerned about you but still there is this fear in her mind and she seems reluctant to step forward... she said that I should have waited for us to graduate but I can't wait for another 1.5 yrs... just don't know what to do, really feeling helpless. I have never felt this helpless ever in ma life... I can never think of myself without her, she is of grave importance to me... she tells my friends that she likes me 2 but don't know why is she reluctant... help me out people...
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    #2

    Apr 5, 2009, 02:52 PM
    You're infatuated. You proposed to her without even being in a relationship with her? She doesn't seem interested, you should move on.
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    #3

    Apr 5, 2009, 04:34 PM

    Your obsessed with this girl. Your not in love with her, your lusting after him.

    Proposing to someone your not even with is beyond creepy to me. This is a sure to way to creep someone out and make they not want to be in a relationship with you. This is a sure way to send them running for the hills.

    I think you need help and by help I mean counselling.

    You can't wait 1 1/2 years for her, you shouldn't but you can't see the bigger picture here. She doesn't want a relationship with you so move on and don't propose to anyone.
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    Apr 6, 2009, 08:27 AM

    She doesn't feel the same way you do and of course, why should she, as your just another guy talking the same crap as the other guys.

    Your asking too much, to fast, and really need to back off putting that pressure on her, to get what you want, but SHE DOES NOT.

    That's just downright selfish, and very immature. Consider her feelings, which her, and her friend, have told you about.

    No buts about it, the more you ignore her feelings, the less likely you get anything.

    Back off!!
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    Apr 6, 2009, 08:42 AM

    Being deceived isn't something many people can get over quickly, and she told you that. You just didn't listen, you heard "I'm not ready" and took it as "try harder" which isn't the case. Leave it alone, proposing before being in a relationship is kind of scary.
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    Apr 6, 2009, 08:50 AM

    You really need to give her some space. She's obviously recovering from a painful experience. Don't pressure her like that.

    Just be there as a friend, if you can't handle that, then back away from her.
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    Apr 12, 2009, 11:05 PM

    I think I missed to write something that we were friends for last 2 years even more then being friends... so that's when I decided to propose her but everythin went wrong... I can't really see her go like that guys... suggest smth...
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    Apr 12, 2009, 11:10 PM
    Guys someone called it a lust... its not lust come on how can you just say like that... and its not flatuation I really love her... I really need good suggestions guys...
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    Apr 12, 2009, 11:28 PM

    I am not really sure what's your real concern: a relationship that never started or your adds by Google you put in the body of your message? What's your website? I'd like to see it.

    As for so-called relationship problems: with those kind of questions anything but "yes" means "NO". SO, you got NO, buddy. So no need to get confused or play confused about something that's so straight forward.

    If you want me to click on your Google adds, just let me know. I'll do it for you.
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    Apr 15, 2009, 02:54 AM

    Yah sure I would love that...
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    Apr 15, 2009, 02:59 AM

    Well you guys are confusing me what do you exactly mean by being in relationship... I have written here that we were, for last two yrs that when I decided to propose...
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    Apr 15, 2009, 03:20 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Universon View Post
    I am not really sure what's your real concern: a relationship that never started or your adds by google you put in the body of your message?? What's your website? I'd like to see it.

    As for so-called relationship problems: with those kind of questions anything but "yes" means "NO". SO, you got NO, buddy. So no need to get confused or play confused about something that's so straight forward.

    If you want me to click on your google adds, just let me know. I'll do it for you.
    The ads are put in by the website not by the op.He is not advertising anything
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    Apr 15, 2009, 03:22 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by hope20 View Post
    well u guys are confusing me wat do u exactly mean by being in relationship....i have written here that we were, for last two yrs that when i decided to propose....
    I hope you don't mind me asking which part of the world are you from?

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