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    lackeybl25 Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 14, 2013, 08:20 AM
    Lying to girlfriend.
    I have lied to my girlfriend 2 times about things that didn't even matter and she doesn't trust or believe me anymore, but she is going to stay with me. I just want her trust back. Somebody please help please.
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    Sep 14, 2013, 08:26 AM
    Don't lie.
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    Sep 14, 2013, 08:56 AM
    If you lie about things that don't matter, then how can she trust you? She obviously figures you will lie about everything, even something that does matter.

    I guess you're lucky because she should have dumped you.

    Make her trust you? You can't... you'll just have to stop being a liar and hopefully one day she will see it.
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    Sep 14, 2013, 10:31 AM
    If she can't trust you and isn't able to give you a chance to regain it, then she should move on and you should let her go.

    To get past this will take both of you working together. You have to be honest with her even about the small things. She has to be willing to believe you and to not allow the seed of doubt to grow. Can you refrain from giving her the fertilizer and water to cultivate it?

    If you can't work together, then you should seriously consider parting ways. I feel it is better to part while there is some positive feeling left before doubts and insecurities turn into fights and arguments. There is no need to turn into enemies before letting go.
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    Sep 14, 2013, 10:37 AM
    Don't lie, be an open book. Include her in everything you possibly can. I am going through the same thing with my guy. I am trying to stick by him, but every time he is on the phone I think its this girl. Crazy thing is I am pretty sure he didn't cheat but the lying and sneaking tore me up. Then this girls guy went to jump off the bridge the other day. Lying and sneaking never produces any positive results.
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    Sep 14, 2013, 11:09 AM
    Don't lie to her about anything ever again. Now you suffer the consequences of your lies about nothing. She obviously doesn't think it was about nothing.
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    Sep 14, 2013, 02:03 PM
    You've dug yourself a hole here and it's incredibly difficult to regain trust once it has been broken.
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