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snipesgirl · Jul 4, 2007, 06:21 PM

Me and my ex boyfriend have been on and off for the past 11months since then he has had 2 other relationships and I have had one. But it seems that we both still like each other, but I'm not sure if he really likes me. I'm really confused and don't know what to do because I'm falling in love with this boy. Can you please help me

Dennis777 · Jul 4, 2007, 06:42 PM

Hello.

No one can say for sure but you, normally if its on and off its more lust then Love. If you can be with another person its Lust not love. Lust is very powerful and many people think its true Love that is until some time passes and the Lust fades. Lust slowly fades where Love Grows with time.

Good Luck
Dennis777

kristynn · Jul 4, 2007, 06:48 PM

It might be on and off forever. Is that what you want?

You say you both still like each other, but it seems like it's not enough to keep you together. :rolleyes:

What caused you to be on and off for the past 11 months?

A coconut · Jul 4, 2007, 06:53 PM

Actually, sometimes guys are unfaitful, but if it starts happening even before the marriage, then, coud u forgive a cheating partner? it sounds to me like this boy doesn't really know if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, otherwise he wouldn't be seeing anyone else, besides, after marriage things get more complicated and hard, so, it's up to you, but realize that you want as a partner some one who will be with you through the good and bad, not just the good, and some one who will love you no matter what, even when you get old and are not as cute anymore. You want a fighter, not a quitter. ( A fighter who fights the good fight I mean, not each other.)

Chery · Jul 5, 2007, 04:12 PM

Dear snipesgirl... This depends on how mature your both are and if you are secure in a relationship. If you do not talk to him and get a straight answer then you are not in a secure relationship. Time will tell you both if it is right.
Bodies tell another thing: Lust is when it is HOT only in one place.
Love is when you feel WARM all over just thinking about him. So, think about it and take if from there.

Good luck.

franklin girl · Jul 5, 2007, 06:49 PM

Sometimes the back and forth stems from a comfort level that two people can share when they are compatible in one area of their relationship. All that being said sometimes you stay because you are afraid of seeing what else is out there for you.

Love and lust are great when they are combined in a clearly defined relationship which it doesn't sound like you have with your guy. There is nothing wrong with seeing what else is out there but human beings are very pattern orientated which means we stay sometimes even when we know we should go.

Just a thought...

jazzbabie · Jul 5, 2007, 07:04 PM

Originally Posted by snipesgirl

me and my ex boyfriend have been on and off for the past 11months since then he has had 2 other relationships and i have had one. but it seems that we both still like each other, but i'm not sure if he really likes me. i'm really confused and dont know what to do because i'm falling in love with this boy. can u please help me

Hey
I'm srrie to hear that
Well I loved someone for about 3 years and then a friend told me something very special that I'm gnna tell u
" If u love something let it go if it comes back its your's, if it dosent you deserve something a lot better"
And tat advice helped me a lot.. I learned to let go of something I loved and it never came back bt I did get back something a lot better

I hope you do also... watever the case may be I hope you get what you want good luck in your realionship..
Hope the advice helped a little bit

talaniman · Jul 6, 2007, 03:33 PM

I think you care more for him, than he does you. He cares, but not enough to be there for you all the time.