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greenarmy445 · Jul 31, 2008, 11:21 AM

Ok I met this girl a good while ago, and pretty much instantly fell helplessly in love with her, id do anyhting to make her happy, the thing is, my best mate fell in love with her too, they went out for a while, but twice, secretly, she told me she loved me, now they've broken up, she said she still loved me , but wudnt go out with me because she didn't want to hurt my best mate, so I accepted that, thing is, she is now in love with this other guy she's going out with, I only want my one shot to make her happy, I love haer, and will never stop, believe me I've tried, I got other girls, but I still couldn't stop thinking of her, she's perfect.

HELP!

Al

happy_jester · Jul 31, 2008, 11:58 AM

Originally Posted by greenarmy445

She said she still loved me , but wudnt go out with me because she didn't want to hurt my best mate.

"greenarmy445" this sounds,to me,like a very caring and considerate girl. :)

She didn't want to hurt the feelings of anyone,so that's why she took the actions
That she did (does that sound like her? )

She is now in love with this other guy she's going out with

I'm afraid,as she's in love with this other boy,you'll just have to accept that,for
No matter how long that is,she's strictly "off limits" for you,as she's already
"spoken for"

greenarmy445 · Jul 31, 2008, 12:02 PM

That's the point, I can't accept it,I see them together, I just get so upset, and your right, she is very caring and considerate, that's what makes it so damn hard to let go (even though I didn't have it in the first place), I don't want to stop being friends either

enigmagnetic · Jul 31, 2008, 02:19 PM

Dude this girl is playing all of you for fools. Cut her off.

rja_2009 · Jul 31, 2008, 02:23 PM

This girl to me sounds like she's playing a control game with all the men she can, human nature leads people to crave attention and she's obviously got yours. Do yourself a favor a get away from her, all she is going to do is play the game and never take it seriously and leave you in pain.

greenarmy445 · Jul 31, 2008, 02:26 PM

Originally Posted by greenarmy445

Ok i met this girl a good while ago, and pretty much instantly fell helplessly in love with her, id do anyhting to make her happy, the thing is, my best mate fell in love with her too, they went out for a while, but twice, secretly, she told me she loved me, now theyve broken up, she said she still loved me , but wudnt go out with me coz she didnt wanna hurt my best mate, so i accepted that, thing is, she is now in love with this other guy shes goin out with, i only want my one shot to make her happy, i love haer, and will never stop, belive me ive tried, i got other girls, but i still couldnt stop thinkin of her, shes perfect.

HELP!!

al

Why is everyone saying that!? If u knew her ud understand, she isn't like tht at all

enigmagnetic · Jul 31, 2008, 03:09 PM

You're in denial. Take a breather. The reason everyone is telling you that is because it's pretty blatant.

Can I ask you, if you where walking down the beach and a tuna hit you in the face, would you call it Spike and treat it like a dog?

N0help4u · Jul 31, 2008, 03:17 PM

She goes into a relationship with your friend and then she jumps into another relationship with somebody else and the whole time telling you she loves you.
Definitely sounds like she wants to play all her cards before she decides to go for you.
I think the I don't want to go out with you because of your being friends with my ex is just an excuse too or did your best friend actually say it would be a problem with him? And he is your friend so that should be between you and him NOT a judgment call on her part.

Me too thinks she is playing you. Either she isn't as interested as she is leading you to believe OR she is sampling the rest and saving the best. But only she can answer that.

Kevin_s · Jul 31, 2008, 03:21 PM

It's much easier to string someone along as a backup while she gets to go do what she wants with other guys than it is to be mature and think about what she really wants and go for it.

Don't play her game, if she wants to be with you, at least you'll have a level head about it and realize whether you want to play her game. Or you may have someone even better, and there is NO one that is perfect. You don't know what she would be like in a relationship a year down the road if you guys lasted that long and she becomes too comfortable. What you see, and what is the reality are two different things.

MC12545 · Jul 31, 2008, 03:26 PM

Dude This Girl Is Straight Pimping You Guys. ( No Offence). Don't Be Part Of Her Mental Game. Be The Only One With Pride In That Foolish Game And Cut Her Loose. Have Some Respect For Yourself. If She Does Love You, She Will Come Back To You.

erin7799 · Jul 31, 2008, 03:34 PM

She's not with you for a reason. You may not want to hear it, but if she really wanted to, she would. I am a girl. I know.

enigmagnetic · Jul 31, 2008, 03:38 PM

Originally Posted by erin7799

She's not with you for a reason. You may not want to hear it, but if she really wanted to, she would. I am a girl. I know.

You are a girl indeed, how you doing cutie? Nice smile, wonderful advice too. I want to hear anything you have to say.

Ok OK.. seriously my man. You should also be aware and expect that if she is the type of person to secretly tell one man she loves him while dating another, her moral compass is clearly crooked. In other words she is likely to repeat that mistake and in turn do it to you! Can you imagine if that was the case! Imagine how you would feel if she did that to you, and use that as a way to ward off any emotions and misconceptions of how you feel for her. Take care.

ylaira · Jul 31, 2008, 03:43 PM

Originally Posted by greenarmy445

i love haer, and will never stop, belive me ive tried, i got other girls, but i still couldnt stop thinkin of her, shes perfect.HELP!!al

A girl who play around on guys emotion and time is far from perfection. For some reason you are just clouded but hey dude you have to wake up!She doesn't value your efforts, doesn't respect you and not into you at all. Common, dude. You are worth than a girl who changes Bf as frequent as her underwear.

N0help4u · Jul 31, 2008, 03:45 PM

I think it may be a good time to talk to your best friend and get his input.
He can tell you what she is all about and if he gives you his blessing if you were to get a chance with her.

greenarmy445 · Nov 30, 2008, 03:47 PM

Ha, I win fools, were together now, yo were al wrong, she's not playing games, and she was telling the truth, I just needed patience, thanks for all your help though, but were now happy together and her moral compass is prefectly in line :) :D;):rolleyes::cool::D

ErinCourtney13 · Nov 30, 2008, 07:09 PM

It sounds like this girl is just confused and doesn't know what she wants. Does she know how you feel about her? If she knows that and is still dating other guys, then she is just playing you. If she doesn't know, tell her and give her the chance to respond to you.