I met this girl at my work place.I work in a leisure facility.she was in for work experience.she is in college studying heaslth and fitness,she's only 2 years younger than me and she's 19.we really seemed to hit it off.in fact we hit it off so well that we began flirting a bit and making each other laugh the whole week,even when I wasn't working we would be just talking about anything,even to the point were she walked me down till I got outside so late on in the week I took her phone number.I was starting to like her,but was a bit cautious because in the past I have been led on by a good few girls,but this girl was different,I liked her personality,because she liked a lot of things that I like such as sports&fitness,music,food plus we would always be smiling at one another.so when I began texting her we again hit it off really well.so when I went into work the next moring one of my work colleagues who was friends with her started to tease me about texting some girl.usually id be embaresed answering these type of things but I just admitted to it.anyway little did I know that she was in the centre doing college practicals,and when she came down I started to blush and so did she a little.then later on my work mates were telling me that I should ask her to go out with me, or at least invite her to my birthday party that I was having in a few days.they also told me that she was asking questions about me such as if I had a girlfriend etc and that she was really interested in me.so I waited till I got home and decided to invite her she immediately said yes.so we then began flirting more as we got to know each other.one day we even texted each other from 11 o clock in the moring to midnight,when it came to, I watched as she walked in through the door,my heart began pounding,to the point were I literally put my hand over my heart,and went into the toilets to throw water over me and gather myself.so I walked out to greet her at the bar and she gave me a present and a card.I told her that she didn't have to but she said she wanted to.it was a nice bottle of after shave and the card had a flirtful joke on it,which she wrote.so when we began talking we talked the whole night,it was around 3 and a half hours non stop talking,we were even smiling at each other and could not take our eyes of one another.I felt for once very comfortable around a girl in front of my family.they were even coming up asking if we were an item I was speechless and began to get shy,I really wanted to say I'm working on it.I asked her if she was embaressed about it,she said not at all.after the party I got a lift with her into the night club.I told her she looked nice,she said "thanks i dont usually dress up this nice but i did for you" I even danced with her because she looked so beautiful,and I never dance because I'm too shy but all I had to do was look into her eyes and it was as if it was only us on the dance floor.one of her best friends asked me if I had kissed her yet,to which I said not yet.at the end of the night she even walked with me to a quiet part of the town,she was really pushing me to kiss her by things she was saying,but I never got that close to a girl before,as I always got rejected in the past so I didn't know what to do,so we kissed each other on the cheek and cuddled,she even started to feel my abs and pecs.so she then left with her friends.I texted her the following day,asking her if she wanted to hang out some time,she said "yea i'd love to", I immediately got a rush from her answer.later on while I was telling her that she looked beautiful,I asked her if she liked me,I was waiting for an simple answer like yes or no,she answered "yea i really do but i'm kinda seein someone at the moment",as soon as I saw that my heart literally crushed.she then said that she really wanted to be friends with me.so I said of course we are.but I wanted to know a few things so asked her how long she's been going out for,she replied a few weeks,it turns out she met him just a day after she met me.so I asked her if I could ask her a few questions that might be akward,but she didn't have to answer them.she said go ahead.so I asked her if she really liked me she said "yeah i do",then I asked her that if I were to of asked her out the first day I met her what would her answer of been,to that one she didn't give me a direct answer she more or less avoided by saying I don't really go out with people,I like to be single.I told her that I really liked her and that I was heart broken over her,but would love to still be friends with her.she said that she really liked me as well.but she wouldn't be a good girlfriend for me,but of course we could still be friends.I then asked her why it wouldn't work,she replied that she wouldn't wish her on anyone,that she would end up messing with me,to that I said I don't believe you,you just haven't met the right guy yet.she answered by saying I don't want to meet the right guy,I told her that I'd love to try a relationship with her or at least go on one date so we would know for sure.she then said that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone at all.so I dropped the questions and we began talking again about other things.I wasn't really buying her answer's because none of her friends even told me that she was seeing someone when asking me if I had kissed her,she never even actually called him her boyfriend,so I don't think its even a solid relationship,that they're in because she told me that she doesn't talk much to him and that she might see him like one night out of the week and because he is away at college.so I began thinking what kind of a relationship is this? after I asked this I was told that she changed her relationship status from single to complicated on her my space page. I really fell hard for this girl,and I feel as though she feels the same because of her body language when around me,plus we can't even take our eyes off one another.I feel as though since she was in a way scared in a previous relationship that she's afraid to commit to one person in case she is cheated on so wants to be single so she always has someone new.I don't know if I'm looking into this too much but I really love this girl,and really believe that we're meant to be together because we make a good partnership.when I'm alone I feel like half a person but when I'm either with her or texting her I feel complete,she brings things out in me that I normally wouldn't do,and I do the same to her.id properly even undersstand the situation a lot better if I got a direct answer from her,but she is just such a strong personality,that I feel she won't admit to maybe for once being in love,because of her past.im really puzzled by her, because like I said earlier when at the party when everyone were asking iof we were together surely if she was in a serious relationship she would have felt akward,especially since she knew that I really liked her.im just stuck as to what to do,I really just want to know for definite if she feel's for me the way I feel for her,and that she is trying to avoid a relationship,I do understand that because she is only 19 it is reasonable to want to be single,but I believe that if you do even have a small chance of loving somebody then you should at least try to see if it works.every time I close my eyes I see her smiling at me,I know I could be maybe just fixated on her but I want to move on knowing that there was never a relationship with us,because I do have strong feelings for her and I don't want to be thinking in a few years if I'm still single that I should have tried harder for her.so any tips on what to do next,even how to talk her into giving me a direct answer in terms of a possible us, would be helpful,but I don't want the typical answers like you can't ruin a relationship because as far as the people that I've asked she isn't in a relationship,she even actually told me when working with her that was single so I am confused.so again any tips would be helpful

You assume, and presume a lot for just meeting someone. Get facts, and not fiction, before you make a decision on what your actions should be.

Fair warning, you may be in a lot deeper than she is, so don't get carried away.

No one can tell you what to do about your situation, because no one is sitting where you are. But I can tell you to find out what your dealing with.

If I were you I'd step back a bit. i.e. don't text her first let her make first contact with you. I'd also ease up and not say too much about how much you like her. Hard as it can be to believe but some girls will just string you along if they know you are keen. As for her being in a relationship it sounds like she likes you both but is more interested in testing the waters with him first and has you on stand by. If you are meant to be give it some time and if it is then things will work out. But I wouldn't give up on chatting up other girls in the mean time. You're young too so why not get about more you never know what's waiting for you unless you chec once in a while. Have you anyone you could confide in? Have a chat with them too get some advice from relative or someone you really trust last thing you want is someone that will spread it around that you're inexperienced.
Anyway good luck with things

You cannot make this girl want a relationship if she does not want one. She is not you, she does not think like you.
I say leave the young lady alone. She seems to know what she wants and doesn't want. If she later on regrets it, that's on her. It's part of the learning process.
Back off. Let her learn and grow
You may think you know what is best for her but you don't. She may like you but not as much as you like her.

So I don't know this girl so I am going to base it off my past experience. When a girl says she's no good for you and that she would just mess with you-run the other way-it means she likes you and has too much respect for you to hurt you the way she has others in the past. Know that by not being with you she cares more for you than her boyfriend and know that although she may not mean to be, even though she may have the best of intentions she may very well be a compulsive dater, a "relationship junkie" or just addicted to that "new boyfriend smell" some people like cars and getting new ones every so often-while others like to switch up their relationships every so often. I was like that once, shell get hurt and bad for hurting others-its called karma, it got me and I'm sure it will get her to.

So just to get a little feedback and maybe help you out a bit more has there been any more contact between you two since?

This is additional info regarding what to 'easynow' enquired about.
We still do text quite a bit,although not for as long as we use to because she is currently off for her mid term break from college.however she is completing the rest off her work experience for the next week so I get to see her every day,but then she also works her regular job evey night for this week as well so I can't text her as much.but when we were talking yesterday again like I said before we hit it off so well considering we met each other just like a month ago,which is unusual for me because I'am naturally shy and it usually takes a few weeks for me to talk and joke with people the way I do with her.we still can't stop starring at one another and smiling I also asked her what she did for valentines day which she answered nothing,I want to really ask her what is the deal with this so called relatonship she is in at the moment because we are now starting to interact physically although it is only playful stuff,but we do,do it visibly then after we do, we keep smiling at one another.we even talked for a straight hour after I was finished in gym and showed her some exercises.it feels as though we don't want to leave one another,but because like one of the answers stated she could just be one of those girls who do like the smell of having new boyfriends even if it is mostly just kissing them and she could be just at this moment unwilling to if you want to say settle down a bit with one consistent boyfriend.after yesterday there is no doubt in my mind that she does really like me but whether she is willing to let herself be with me is a difficult question.
I also want to thank the people for your answers,even if I might not agree with them but it is beneficial none the less to look at the other perspectives and even to get an outsiders look on it. As I could be just looking too much into this whole scenario like they say love is blind but my feelings are still the same for her if not stronger to her after I have talked to her.any more answers is greatly appreciated

If you don't get carried away, you can have fun getting to know her, as that's what dating is all about. A month is not a long time at all and moving to fast usually is a disaster later. Take the fun practical route. You may be comfortable around her, but she is still a stranger. Time will tell how she really feels.

Sounds like the best thing to do is keep things going the way they are don't push the whole thing about going on a date and see how things go. It sounds like she does like you but wants to test the waters with this other guy first. It's your decision whether you really want to wait around for her but the problem with that could be she falls deeper for this other guy or ends up going out with him properly.

Hey how things with you both now?

Hello again,this is another update on what's been going on.I did get to work with her on her last day of work experience and I enjoyed being with her,I really wanted to ask her questions, such as would she ever give me a chance to take her out in the future whether it be months ahead and to tell her in person that I truly fell for her,but managed to hold it back as with the previous advice I was given said to not pressure her as much in case I'am being too front with her, which was honestly hard for me to do because I feel like I'm carrying this huge cross over me,by not getting it out of my chest but I know it could be worth holding on to until the right time comes for me to tell her how I truly feel for her.ok so we did again joke and flirt with one another both verbally and physically.we still kept texting one another however she has been busy this whole week with exams at college and then she has also been working a lot of long hours which is in a way leaving me isolated as I've not been able to communicate with her as much as I'd like to,so when id text her early in the day and get no reply,and then id send her one more text in the evening I wouldn't get any reply,which I'll honestly say started to put doubt in my head.then I got a text from her apologising that she hasn't been able to text me lately and that she's been really busy which I didn't get look at until I woke up as she sent it at around 4 in the morning,so I sent her a message telling her it was OK,and asked her if she needed someone to talk to as she seemed very worn out as she was basically active 20 hours a day with work & college,so during the weekend I texted her again to see how she was feeling,and got a reply saying that she would text me when she wasn't busy so I took her word and have stood away from texting her.I've tried to take my mind of her now for a few days,and concentrate on other things but I keep seeing her smiling at me in my head.I'm even dreaming about her now,which in it we always meet and end up holding hands.in a way I feel alone as I'm thinking of what to do with my life in terms of what I want to be doing in 5 years,and she is the only person that allows me be speak my truth
But at this point in time she is in a way disconnected from me.oh yeah by the way everybody that we know mutually keeps asking me if we're going out which I keep painfully telling them that she is seeing somebody.the reason it pains me is because I really want to be with her,but I also feel vulnerable as I have basically thrown myself out the window to this girl.so like I say before any more advice or suggestions would be grateful,I'm also confused with how to take the questions that I keep being asked by friends in relating to us being an item, such as is it that they think that we do make a good couple etc.I did ask one of them if she even ever asked them about me which I was told that she was really interested in me,this made me even more confused about the whole situaton so again any more advice would be very helpful

OK I just found out that she is no longer in any kind of relationship,so I'm just looking for some advice on how I should approach this.I want to tell her that I am madly in love with her but don't know if that could be a little too strong to tell her it before we have even gone out.I also found out some vital information,that I'm not sure what way to take it though,this info is going back to the first week we met,she made a bet to one of her friends who happens to work with me ,that she would get me to ask her out or make the first move on her,I heard them mentioning a bet when I walked by them later on that week but didn't know what it meant.when I found this out I immediately thought of the movie "shes all that"
This has got me thinking "did she ever really like me or was that flirting just part of the bet",but then again she was asking a lot of personal things about me to my friends e.g. had I a girl friend ( which I don't and never had one because deep down I'm a romantic guy and would only go after a girl that I had a connection with).also could she only be playing hard to get because I took my time in asking her out?or I'm just realising this,could she be put off that I never had I girlfriend?
Anyway I can honestly say that I love her,every time I close my eyes I keep seeing her face,especially when certain songs come on that was also played at my party,I just keep rembering what we were doing during that time which was starring into eachothers eyes smiling at one another but I can still feel the electricity between us when we looked at it.one more detail about that night was that the outfit she wore, she doesn't wear clothes like that for anybody but she told me that she dressed up for just for me, WHAT DOES THIS STATEMENT MEAN?I'm sorting of regreting not kissing her properly that night after we hugged and starred in eachothers eyes,but I would have totally been destroyed if I did kiss her and then find out she's seeing somebody.
So just to again to say she is now single again,so any advice on what way or how I should approach it would be grateful.she has been totally stressed out this week with college and work so am thinking of trying to treat her to something to relax her, would this be a good idea?

What's the situation now after a few months got to say though id be wondering too after hearing about a bet and would probably steer clear of her if she's that shallow! Have you moved on?

I'm in a similair position, except the girl I'm pretty much in love with and I spent like 3 amazing days with her flirting, holding hands, smiling at each other constantly, even watching the sunrise together is in a solid relationship and there's no way I could interfere with that, sometimes life really s you over and it's hard but you've got to stick it out and get over her, that's all I can do.