Seven long, hard months has passed since my girl and I split up. We met the day before New Years eve and never parted since. She liked me a lot at first, I was very skeptical to jump into something too fast. I let fate lead the way. I was having a rough time financially recovering from a major break up one year prior. I LOST EVERYTHING, except for my will and fierce determination to make it. The income was not enough and I knew that, but I made it work. When I met her, she blew me away. She had a fabulous job and made more then I'd make given another 10yrs. I made sure I paid for my things. I made that very clear from the get go. 2 months into the relationship, my feelings for her grew more. I like this girl, I really really like her. So it was bliss, until I got a dreaded email from one of my roomates. We need you to start looking for another place as of march 1st we have to be out, the house sold. I was stunned!!
I had no intentions of living with my NEW girlfriend at all. I stressed and stressed as I had no money for a down payment and no other friends. It was looking really bad. She said, You know I would be more then willng to help you. You could stay here for free. I IMMMEDIATELY said NO! A couples weeks went by I finally broke down and said okay. I moved in and things were okay for a little while, I also told her Id give her rent money. She knew my financial issues at the time. The months wore on and I noticed her becoming distant. She said, well you said you'd give me rent money. I felt as small as a pea. I said I know, but I knew I couldn't afford too. Soon... I realized the intimacy left weeks ago. She said, she didn't have the drive due to her hysterectomy and past sexual abuse as a child. I worked with that, consoled her and more. FInally I knew the only way for this to survive was to move out. We both were okay with this decision. ON move out day, she had a really nasty attitude and I ended up moving all my stuff out on my own. Later on that day, I found out she took me off her myspace, that's how I found out we were done. Now that's low! After all this, we HAD AMAZING CHEMISTRY. Now Im dating, she is dating and every other month or so we send each other an email. I'm still lost, 7 months later. She really completed me, but also hurt me in some ways too. I miss her so much.:(

Dude, get your act together, and be able to stand on your own feet. Forget the girls if you have to, but depend on yourself, and when you tell someone you will do something, do it. You have to at least be able to hold up your end.

Yea just forget about her. She left you for the dumps. What I'm saying is if she just completely walked out on your life then you should realize this and just disappear from hers. If she even cared about you at all then she would realize what she did was wrong and come looking for you.

You need to get this back. You obviously know how to move on after a heartbreak because you did it once before. Put those same principles into action here.

You will make it, you will survive, you will be "fierce and determined" once again.

I can see that it's hard for you to move on because there really was no closure, and that was messed up on her part.

You need to let yourself heal from your heartbreak.. it doesn't just up and disappear.. you need to work through the emotions.. also get active and try to meet new friends..

I don't suggest dating while you're getting over heartbreak.. no good can come from it, believe me, I made that mistake.

Just believe in yourself and continue to grow and heal.. you'll be just fine... and when you're ready, you're going to find a woman that was worth all the wait!

In life things happens. You can be with someone today and not with them next day, break-ups happen all the time. Again, that's life but you live and you learn and you learn something different from each relationship that you have.

Was it love between you and this girl, I don't really think so because everything in this relationship with her happen too fast however I think there was strong feelings involved, at least on your part. Everything happen to sudden all the way down to your moving in together.

The question I've for you is what did you learn from this relationship? It's time to let go and move on.

Yeah it really is time to let go and move on, its not that strange that you are having problems in letting go.. seeing as there seems to be a lack of closure.

Whether it was love, well there seemed to have been some love on your part... on hers however? Its hard to say.

The way you describe it it seemed that everything in your relationship moved very fast, but who's to say it wasn't love?