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Skinsfan4life09 · Jul 15, 2009, 06:45 AM

Hi,

My name is Greg and I was the victim of a break up. Recently, my ex and I broke up due to a trust issue that I thought was something I needed to keep to myself which involved an issue with another ex girlfriend. While my the issue had nothing to do with my girlfriend at the time. My situation was that my ex got pregnant I tried to find out if the baby was mine. The ex told me that it was not mine but still wanted to find out. Was going to take the test but could not come up with the money. Meanwhile, all this happened much before my current relationship. My relationship with the last girl was the greatest relationship but feel I want to rekindle the relationship. She was happy with me until this. What do I need to do or say? What can I do? Any advice?

jmw0713 · Jul 15, 2009, 07:48 AM

This is probably not worth pursuing, because trust is extremely difficult to win back. She will always be wondering in the back of her mind, if you are still keeping secrets. This will go on for a long time and if you do end up back together, the trust issue is likely to come up again and again.

You can try talking to her and honestly explain the situation. It will be her choice to take you back. If she does, the relationship will be very strained right from the start and you both will have to work together to try and reestablish the trust between you again. This is VERY hard to do and you will probably end up back in the same situation a few months later.

BMI · Jul 15, 2009, 07:54 AM

Not a lot of information here to be able to actually tell you if it's worth pursuing. It seems that this situation occurred before your current ex (that sounds odd? ) and so I have no idea why she would end a relationship over something done in your past, unless there is more to the story.

Either way, whether she was justified in leaving or she is just using it ascover for another reason, these things rarely work out once they are finalized. Getting someone back has a very low success rate, you can read plenty about that on these boards.

kctiger · Jul 15, 2009, 08:04 AM

Take a giant boombox, blare Peter Gabriels' "In Your Eyes" song and stand outside of her window while doing this... a sure fire way to get back the woman you love!

jmooney527 · Jul 15, 2009, 08:05 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Take a giant boombox, blare Peter Gabriels' "In Your Eyes" song and stand outside of her window while doing this...a sure fire way to get back the woman you love!

Got to make sure it's raining out too haha!