My ex and I broke up about 4 1/2 months ago. I had a really hard time letting go, but the last month and 1/2 have been really good. I've cut off all communication (well he basically did it for me, but I haven't tried contacting him myself for a while).

I've been taking a lot of time for myself and figuring out what I want in life. I'm still pretty young (20) so I have a lot of time, but right now everything is going pretty well I suppose. I could certainly be doing better in school, but I'm working on that.

Basically I was just wondering how people get rid of that loneliness feeling? I thought I was doing a pretty good job, but sometimes that feeling just creeps up on me and I hate feeling like that. I guess it could be that I'm not interested in anyone right now? I don't feel as though I need a boyfriend and I don't really particularly want one -- unless I met someone that I had great chemistry with, etc. I've been keeping myself busy, and doing things that I want to do, but sometimes I just get really lonely. I hate admitting it, but it's true. I even hang out with close friends, and it's just not the same.

Some people cure their loneliness by going out and sleeping with everyone or even just one person, but I'm not like that. I can't sleep with someone unless I have feelings for them and I'm definitely not the type to go out and just get a random boyfriend because I'm bored. Hmmm... I don't know, I guess I just have to bite through it and it will hopefully eventually pass?

I could also be feeling lonely because I know that my ex has a new girlfriend and what not, but I'm not really sure.

I don't really know if there is a question in there to be answered, but I think I just needed to vent :)

Venting is always helpful, and this would be the place to do it. :) I think I was in a similar situation as yourself. Just take it one day at a time, but then at the same time set up some goals for yourself. Something to look forward to, and work for. Keep yourself busy with friends and family. And do your best not to check on ex, as you can tell it doesn't help knowing what they are doing, so don't let yourself find out.

The lonliness hasn't gone away for me, it's been 4 and a half months, but it has gotten easier and easier everyday.

Absolutely excellent advice "D", sorry I had to spread the rep.

Of all the ways you could have done to deal with your loneliness, you did well to chose here to vent. You should get a plan of action, that allows you to be around happy healthy people.