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    loverlover87 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 9, 2013, 09:45 PM
    I keep seeing and hearing my ex's name. Is it a coincidence or is there a reason?
    I have been dealing with my ex off and on for about 5 years. My ex's name is Jacqueline but goes by Jackie...

    I noticed this really well around the first time we broke up back in 2008. I would see or hear her name almost on the daily. I would go to stores and the cashier's name was jackie or commericals would come on and the lady's name is Jacqueline and I would just happen to read something that would somehow have the name Jackie or Jacqueline.

    Well I was recently back in contact with her which was very brief because I can't trust her because of the past incidents but I do still love her very much and I used to always think maybe we just need time - maybe that will make her act right but I know that not true because people don't change. But just this week I have being noticing that same with hearing her name on commercials or reading it in articles or websites. Just today I had read an article on Yahoo that was about a woman renting a family for the holiday on craigslist and her name was Jackie. Later today I read another article from my local newspaper about a school and the Principal's name was Jacquie.

    I know the saying if you are looking for it than you will notice it more but I swear I'm not I see her name or hear her name with everything I do.. It just happens. Is this a coincidence or could this be a sign for something else. Have you ever experienced this?

    I would love some assistance with this issue.
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    Wondergirl Posts: 39,354, Reputation: 5431
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    Dec 9, 2013, 11:20 PM
    It's a coincidence. Your brain is programmed to pick up her name whenever your eyes see it.

    I learn a new word and suddenly it's everywhere I am looking -- on TV, in the newspaper, in a book I'm reading. I hear a piece of classical music and suddenly I hear it everywhere -- in commercials and playing on the radio.

    How to get her out of your head? Get busy and get involved in life with friends and hobbies and working out and helping more around the house with various projects.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,325, Reputation: 10855
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    Dec 12, 2013, 02:45 PM
    It's a normal function of a break up to still be reminded of an ex just by everyday events triggering old feelings. It fades in time as you make new memories and activities.

    Old songs still trigger my memories that have been buried for almost half a century. But I have a lot of exes and they still pop up in the back of my mind unexpectedly. Its NORMAL, and the intensity of those feelings can easily be dealt with by changing focus.

    Time works to heal.

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