Me and my girlfriend just broke up, and I am having a really hard time with it. It lasted 5 months, and was very serious. I'm only 18 years old, and so everybody says that things will get better and ill get older and have better relationships, but I just don't know. I hate being single, and from what I have read on askmen.com, I suppose I would be classified as needy and insecure, but I'm a really nice guy full of love to give. I surprised her with flowers, loved to talk with her about anything and everything, and everything was great... but then it seems like she didn't ever want to talk, and didn't really care about what I cared about... her religious beliefs are mormon, so she doesn't like any intimacy AT ALL... so we didn't ever have sex, but we made out and dry humped but she hated that. But she introduced it to me.. I don't know if there is something wrong with me or what girls look for, and how I can make myself appealing, because everything seems so hopeless.. is it just young love?

You got with the wrong girl, buddy. Don't let that shake your confidence. Just be happy with who you are, and the right girl will love you for it.
HINT-Being single allows you to flirt, and be friendly with ALL the girls, and you just pick one.

Work on that while your single, and it won't bite you in the butt later. Girls love confident guys, who don't mind sharing their happiness with them.

Talaniman is right-and hang out with friends and just have fun-life is for living and having a good time.

You'll be fine buddy. :)

There is nothing wrong with you. You're just going through the normal doubts and grief that crop up when relationships finish.

You're worrying about yourself when there is no need to worry. There will be lots more people for you to love and many more that will really appreciate it.

Being single is great, and going out with different people helps us to understand what relationships (and people) are all about. Deep down you know this. Listen to that inner wisdom.

Hello B,

Talaniman is correct! Being single does allow you to do those things.

There is nothing wrong with you!

You seem like you would make a wonderful boyfriend. You seem to have a lot of great qualities. You will find that special someone who treats you right.

One thing that did worry me a little was you stated that you don't like to be single... You are young, enjoy being single. Focus on yourself. Sure, date, just don't be in a hurry to find someone beacause you don't want to be single.

You will be OK buddy!

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I realize that I am not perfect, and my last relationship has fallen apart, and I've never felt this way about a girl (its the most serious relationship I have ever had) and I am still clinging to the threads that she has attempted to sever. I love her so much, but now she seems so detached like she's moving on and nothing affects her, and she is not having a hard time with it at all.. so every day, unless I have something to do, all I can do is think about her.. and what she is doing, and who she is hanging out with, and everything about her.. even though I try my best not to.. I don't have many friends that I hang out with, so staying busy with them is becoming difficult, and staying home alone with ice cream and movies doesn't help any.. my life is becoming a wreck, and its really hard for me to be happy about anything.. its all just depressing. I want her to want me back, but at the same time, I want to move on and not have to think about her all day long. I don't know how to move on, and I just want to get better.. I have another post that describes our relationship called "is it just young love" that could be used for reference. Please help me...

Read the stickies at the beginning of this forum. The are a good read and gives you all kind of suggestions on how to move on and get over a break up. It starts with absolutely no contact with her what so ever.

There is a link in my signature below.

Find more things to do and make new friends.

Whenever you start thinking about your ex,get busy doing something else.

It takes time to heal from a breakup,but you will.

Read the stickies as suggested by talaniman , not only will you realise your not alone , you'll get invaluable insight into how to get over a breakup , how to do all the things that make it easier and more importantly you'll learn that not only is being single good fun and a time to really learn about yourself , it will teach you how not to make the same mistakes in the future.

It will get better as everyone else here has said , you just have to deal with all the negative emotions at the moment and learn from it.