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    Nov 12, 2008, 11:05 AM
    Just in case you think about breaking NC.
    So, I have been on NC for only 5 days right now. My ex emailed me last week saying she tried to call me because she is having some family issues. So, like an idiot I rush to her aid. Give her my office number and cell number (I had changed my cell so she couldn't call, and she never had my office number). So, for four days last week I check up on her. After Friday I was like, no more! Today, the 5th day of NC I decided to make sure if she is still doing all right. Her response:
    "Everything is fine, thank you for asking. I am going to Coldplay tomorrow night."

    We were supposed to go to this concert. I totally forgot they were in town. I have also heard that her newbie Chris (whom she has denied twice within the past two weeks she is even seeing) is taking her to this concert. So, now of course I feel sad and to the point of tears at my freaking office!! Let that be a lesson. NC is the only way, because it SUCKS when you break it! I am not back to square one, but it is just picking at a scab that isn't ready to be picked at yet. Trust me!
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    Nov 12, 2008, 11:18 AM
    Dude, hang in there. I am right there with what your feeling today.

    Try to find something to do at work to take your mind off her, even if it's just for 5 minutes.

    I did that earlier this morning and I feel better than I did.
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    Nov 12, 2008, 11:30 AM

    Its hard man.. even more so when they call up for help.. because you just think about helping them.. nothing else..

    And then your like.. A? Wait a min.

    Its good to help people out man remember that.. but Xs.. it just opens up a can of worms.

    But now keep to no contact. And just try to ignore her in the futuer

    Best of luck we have all been there from time to time :)

    Its normal
    This just makes your stronger
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    Nov 12, 2008, 11:52 AM
    Keep on venting my friend, I've been active on this site since my girlfriend asked me for some time and space because she didn't know what she wanted, I've been in NC for 10 days after 4.5 years and I'm doing well, a lot better then I thought, I fear your situation of her calling or texting me because she left me in limbo of not knowing what she wanted from us, so I'm scared to answer. :(
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    Nov 12, 2008, 11:56 AM

    It's not like I don't know the reality of the situation. We were together for 4 1/2 years as well. Curiosity killed the cat. I don't know how many lives I have left. I KNOW I still deeply love her and care for her, and I also know she is already talking to another guy... that hurts to have your mind thinking someone you STILL love is with someone else.
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:06 PM

    The bad news, that brick wall is still harder than your head.

    The good news, we have extra aspirin.

    Oh Well, back to NC!
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:12 PM
    See if I knew my girlfriend / ex or w.e. she is wanting space is talking to another guy and seeing him I would be relieved because for instance my girl and I were supposed to be married and I was the only one for her I have texts from her 3 days prior to saying I make her so happy and I'm the only one for her forever yada yada yada, basically then she lied to me for 4.5 years and I was living a lie and I'm grateful that it finally ended because she wasn't truly in for the long run like I was. And maybe your woman and mine if she is with another guy, she'll see the grass isn't greener on the other side, because finding love and caring like we can offer to them is very rare and they'll see that. Then it'll be your choice if you want her back, or in your life at all. But I understand it's hard to walk away from your best friend.

    I wish you the best of luck my friend. I'll say a prayer for you!
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:14 PM
    I know it hurts... and you still love her. I am in the Same boat as you only my relationship was 1 year shorter.

    Think of all the advice you have given others... and all of the advice you have received so far. It's really good. You have helped a lot of people. And we are hear to help you.

    If you fall off the wagon just hop back on! It will get better in a couple of days.

    Thanks, BTW for helping through my weak moment this morning... your advice is dead on.
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:18 PM

    It always helps to give others advice, that's why I do it. Sometimes I don't take enough of my own advice that I spew onto others. But, hey, we are all hear for each other. I have no doubt I can get back up and keep moving. It is now just small slumps I get into, where as before it may have been days or even a week or two before I cleared my head up...

    Plus, it does others good to know that I am not just giving lame advice. I am still going through this rough time and I know how if feels... it ain't over yet.
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:23 PM

    Don't worry man, we have ALL fell off the wagon before. It's hard to cut off contact you are so comfy talking to, and have been in contact with years.

    We have A LOT of supporters here, they were my lifeline when my ex and I broke up at first and now I come here everyday trying to help people to repay the favor, in a way.
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:27 PM
    I got your back man! This crap will all work out for all of us, with or without our significant others. Just keep your head up! It could ALWAYS be worse. I'm going to try and figure out goes on in a woman's head and write a book on it and became a ga-jillionaire and I'll buy all of you guys a mansion and beer. Everything else your responsible for. :)
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:28 PM

    Cool man, I will remember that!
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:31 PM

    OK, I'm sorry I'm dumb, but I read the post and I don't know what NC means. Can someone please tell me?
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:32 PM
    No Contact
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:33 PM

    You are not dumb... I didn't know what it means until I asked.
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:35 PM
    LOL, yeah when I first saw people say "I think I'm going to go NC" I thought... hmmm... why are all these people going to North Carolina.

    HAHA
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:36 PM

    Yeah, what is so special about North Carolina that, when people break up, they immediately have to go there??
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:38 PM
    That's what I thought... then I read Ash's sticky and was enlightened.
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:38 PM

    LOL. That is funny. I guess I wasn't the only one. Thinks a lot. I believe that is the best was to go about things from my experience anyway.

    Thanks!
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    Nov 12, 2008, 12:38 PM
    Hey KCtiger could you read my story, I'm not sure if you did already and post some input all you said was something about my handle not sure if you read it and had an opinion, I'd appreciate it. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ke-280105.html

    And for the record, the only thing good about NC is DUKE GO BLUE DEVILS!
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