Ok. I have had been going out with her for a year and a half nearly. We broke up about 3 weeks ago due to some sort of she wants and doesn't feel she's kind of ready for a long term relationship so basically broke up on good terms but I have tried accepting it and tried everything for the last 2 weeks getting her back kind of just pushes her away. But I have met her 2 nights ago at her house she didn't really want too as it was late but we talked I don't really know what about just went had a chat or say sh!t about each other but she has so much mixed emotions like she really doesn't know what she's doing as she cried when she left me etc had nice long hugs etc but I can always find out or hear of valuable information as her best friend goes out with my best friend so we all spent times together. And I said I have changed for the best of and one of the reasons was a bit too clingy and she felt guilty when she went out? I love her so very much and have tried the sort of trying to get back with her for the last 2.5 weeks But hasn't worked and the last thing I heard from her was her birthday yesterday I just wish her happy birthday she said thanks that about it and I don't have major depression or moodswings still do activities college gym etc and she goes the same college but only one day a week I would without a doubt bump into her I don't know what to if I should just ignore and continue no contact positively or say hello that's about it or actually hang round with her with our same friends but dot give her much attention or anything. So could anyone give me advice in what to do from now I am always calm don't panic much I miss her to the death but I always think about her on the back of my mind and only sometimes talk about her with friends. Thanks Kieran

The two of you broke up, but it doesn't sound like you have accepted that, have still pursued her relentlessly ("been too clingy" and "tried everything for the past two weeks").

You want advice on what to do from now on? Why? Would you heed that advice?

Hmm I understand I mean that I am trying to accept it but I can't I would do anything to have her back but I have read loads of articles etc on what to do I want to do no contact so we can chill from each other but I don't know if I just ignore her from now like I have been doing since I last seen her or maybe tell her but I don't want her to completely move on from maybe we loved each other very much I miss her a lot but I am always trying to keep myself on the go. But she's always on my mind and haven't actually been properly happy since the brake up :( I kind of just don't know what to do from here.

What you do from here is get busy with your own life and study hard and go to the gym and volunteer at a library or animal shelter and read a book and plant a garden and play hopscotch with the neighbor's children.

Meanwhile, go NC.

That's exactly what you do and when you bump into her be polite but busy and unavailable. It takes time my friend to get beyond those lingering intense feelings and thoughts, but coping with them is what you do. Just be patient with yourself, its only been a few weeks.

I suggest doing things you enjoy, as you rebuild, regroup, and adjust to the changes in your life.