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    jessi_13 Posts: 10, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 28, 2007, 11:30 AM
    I'm so sad!
    Hey I need some advice this guy I like is with another girl, what can I do?
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    Feb 28, 2007, 12:28 PM
    Well if he's gay there really is nothing you can do about it, but just get over him. Do you know this guy?
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    Feb 28, 2007, 01:47 PM
    Keep looking as they say there are plenty more fish in the sea xx
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    Feb 28, 2007, 03:38 PM
    There is nothing you can do as far as getting this guy to go with you. He is with someone else. You can be his friend. Or you can leave him alone all together, which may be the best solution here. Get yourself busy elsewhere - activities, being with other people, hobbies, etc.
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    #5

    Mar 1, 2007, 10:40 AM
    He's not gay I accedntly put guy instead of girl my bad
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    Mar 1, 2007, 11:14 AM
    Jessi, you're a funny girl, you had us all feeling sorry for you cause we thought the guy you fell for was gay! Very funny...

    Either way, if he is with someone else, than that should tell you that that is who he chose to be with. Please don't waste any of your valuable time or effort trying to change his mind or make excuses for his actions, just move on. Someone else will come along. Someone who knows he wants you the way you want him.
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    #7

    Mar 15, 2007, 09:27 AM
    How should I put this?
    OK I like this guy cheyenne(the same guy as last time) and I want to tell him how I feel but don't know how? He's 17 and has a girl friend but I still want to tell him!! I'm going to write him a note but I don't know what to say do you have any advise?
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    #8

    Mar 15, 2007, 09:30 AM
    If he has a girlfriend already don't bother wasting your time!
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    Mar 15, 2007, 09:36 AM
    Honey, forget the note! It will only get you into trouble! Guys tend to show the note to the girlfriend and you don't want trouble from her; you want him!

    Find a way to spend more time around him; hopefully away from her. Go to a party he is going to or friends house and make him notice you. Not by wearing slutty clothes either, cause then he will only want... well you know. Guys want to feel like they are chasing the girl; they want competition. Date his friend. Go on double dates with him. I know this might sound strange, but trust me... IT WORKS! NO NOTES though... that is trouble!
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    Mar 15, 2007, 07:34 PM
    Forget the note, forget the guy he is taken, move on.
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    Mar 15, 2007, 07:41 PM
    Yep, talaniman is right. It's not a good habit to go after people who are unavailable (or things that are not yours). Unfortunately, he belongs to another right now. But, who knows what can happen in the future...
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    Mar 15, 2007, 09:06 PM
    I know we all want things we can't have.. my adivce don't go for it :) find someone else..
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    #13

    Mar 20, 2007, 09:27 AM
    More about cheyenne
    Well I bought cheyenne something (a necklace) from myrtle beach and he actually liked it and he told me that he dident let his girlfriend see that note and yes I wrote him a note and you know I think I'm in love with him because he's mostly all I think abought sooo do you have any advice or tell me signs of how I know I love him
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    Mar 20, 2007, 10:14 AM
    Listen, would you like if you had a boyfriend and some girl started buying him gifts and writing notes to him??
    Start to treat others the way you would like them to treat you.

    Go and find a guy who does not have a girlfriend!!

    You are not in love, it is lust, you want him because he is not available.
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    Mar 20, 2007, 10:33 AM
    Jessi, you are very infatuated with this guy, but trust me, love is an entirely different matter. You sound like a good girl, so let me ask you a few questions.

    He has a girlfriend, you know that, would you really feel okay if you broke them up? Would you really be proud of that accomplishment? Why?

    Also, how would you feel if some girl came and broke you and your boyfriend up on purpose by flirting, giving him gifts... whatever, would you like that very much?

    And last, even if you were able to convince him to be with you (which you should NEVER have to "convince" anyone to be with you) how do you know he will be faithful? If he cheats on her with you, he's a jerk and can't be trusted? How do you know he won't do the same to you??

    He may be cute and funny and all that good stuff, but, the truth of the matter is he's taken. He's not available and it's not right for you to go after him. It's not cool to that other girl (whether she's nice or not) and it's not a good reputation for you either. You need to respect yourself more than that.

    I would hate to think that there's a woman who works with my husband who is plotting on how to break us up so she could have him. Even if all she did was buy him gifts and smile and flirt and write him notes, it's wrong. She's trying to steal something that doesn't belong to her. Can you imagine your dad cheating on your mom just cause some Silly Sally came along and thought he was cute and decided she wanted him?

    Why do I say this? If you think this is okay to do now, you will grow up with that mentality and do it your whole life. You don't ever want to be that other woman, it's not a healthy place to be sloppy seconds. Just move on. You will find someone better, cause he won't be taken and more than likely he will be pursuing you, which is how it should be!

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