I'm now 22 and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we've never had sex before. We were best friends before so we understand each other a lot.

The problem is that I'm ready to have sex with him so his he but I'm afraid due to medical reasons I haven't told him about and is afraid to tell him about.

The thing is that I have keloid bumps on my vagina that looks really terrible and I'm afraid if he sees them it would turn him off even if I should tell him about them.

I'm getting treatment but he doesn't know and they won't be coming off for now.
This is my second intimate relationship and I really love him a lot but I don't think I want him to see such ugly sight.

Shara

Oh I do feel for you, carrying this worry around with you.

It certainly sounds like you have a wonderful relationship and that you are very close.

Sometimes when faced with a worrying situation we need to take a step back and think, what would I do if he had the same problem, I am betting you would say that it wasn't a problem at all and really there was no need to worry...

I know bringing up a subject that is delicate can be so stressful, would writing your feelings and problems in a note help, or some people find it easier to distance themselves a little and be 'matter of fact' by drawing or showing a picture with the medical definition of the problem, or you could both visit the Dr's together and the Dr could explain what Keloids are.

But I am sure you will not be comfortable until it is out in the open and I have no doubt that your boyfriend will wipe away any fears that you have and will love you even more for worrying about him.

Take care and good luck. We are here for you.

Thanks a lot (bestsinger101) for that it really lighten me up a little.

Writing to him is a great idea but I'm just afraid of his reactions at first as I know I wouldn't feel anyway if he had the problem.

We are really close and share a lot as we've been best friends for 7years.

Well I'm going to try and get the courage to tell him before it gets any later.

Hi Shara

I think being as close as you are, (friends for 7 years that is just so special) he maybe sensing a little nervousness or worry.

Just as you are thinking of what his reaction might be, he is worrying just as much as you what you might tell him, it is funny what goes through our mind when we know something is wrong but not sure what.

The more you fear something the more likely you are to back away so you are right, try and tell him sooner rather than later and the relief you feel will be great (and his too probably!)

Fingers crossed for you, you can do it

Shara,

You are in a difficult situation, and I very hard to to tell someone what to do in this situation. This will depend on you and how you feel the situation with your boyfriend is at the moment.

The best thing to do is ask him how he feels about abnormal or disfigured things in jokingly manner to see how he reacts to it. If he doesn't act weird give him time before you tell him the situation.

Good luck and I hope it works out for the best...

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Thanks for that, as that's a great idea as well!

If I was you I would tell him and if he loves you for who you are he'll understand if he doesn't understand and breaks up with you that means he loves you for what looks you have and not for what you are inside so tell him he should understand

Talk to him the same way you have "talked here". Then turnoff the lights and do the do!!

I am posting some info on this for people who don't really know lot's about these. I was wondering how you have them on your vagina? My friend Corie has one on his eye lid and it can be very annoying to him. I feel that you need to be honest with your man there because by keeping it from him he could find himself feeling one at some point and think something much worse... Genital wart's. If I were him and I'm not, LOL... I wouldn't care as long as it wasn't a virus or contiguous. He seems like the kind of guy who loves you no matter what. Good luck.
Keloids are overgrowths of fibrous tissue or scars that can occur after an injury to the skin. These heavy scars are also called cheloid or hypertrophic scars. In individuals prone to keloids, even minor traumas to the skin, such as ear piercing, can cause keloids.

Description

Keloids can occur anywhere on the body, but they are most common on the earlobes, upper back, shoulders, and chest. They consist of hard, raised scars that may be slightly pink or whitish. These may itch and be painful, and some keloids can grow to be quite large.

Causes and symptoms

Although the cause of keloids is unknown, it is thought that they are due to the body's failure to turn off the healing process needed to repair skin. When this occurs, extra collagen forms at the site of the scar, and keeps forming because it is not shut off. This results in keloid formation.

Keloids occur most frequently in individuals of African-American descent and in those with darker skin. Other risk factors include a family history of keloids, surgery, acne, burns, ear piercing, vaccinations, or even insect bites. In addition, women and young people under the age of 30 are more prone to develop them.

Initially, keloids will begin as a small lump where the skin has been injured. This lump grows and can eventually become very large and cosmetically unacceptable.

Diagnosis

A dermatologist can usually make the diagnosis of a keloid based on looking at the scar. In some cases, however, a biopsy may be necessary to rule out other types of skin lesions, such as tumors.

Treatment

The treatment of choice for keloids is usually an injection of corticosteroid drugs such as cortisone directly into the lesion. These injections cause the keloid to become atrophic, or thinner, and are repeated every three to four weeks until the keloid has been resolved to the individuals satisfaction. Other therapies include laser treatment or radiation therapy, and topical treatments are undergoing study.

Surgery is often used in combination with corticosteroid injections. The injections are given for several weeks, and then the keloid is surgically removed. The injections are then continued for several weeks. Surgical removal of the keloid may also be used in conjunction with radiation therapy, which delivers small amounts of radiation to the affected area.

Newer approaches include silastic gel sheeting, which makes use of pressure to flatten the keloid. The gel is applied and kept securely in place with tape, cloth, or an ace bandage. The dressing is to be changed every seven to 10 days, for as long as 12 months.

Finally, researchers are now studying a type of tape that has been soaked with steroids, which are released slowly into the keloid, causing it to thin over time.

Prognosis

Although keloids are unsightly, they are not life threatening. Keloids do not have a tendency to develop into malignancies, but they can become cosmetically unacceptable. Keloids can gradually lessen after treatment, but many recur. And just as they can occur spontaneously, they can also resolve spontaneously.