So it's been about 8 weeks since we broke up and 3 weeks of no real contact. We lived together and so the billing statements were still being emailed to me so I forwarded them to him. Also, I texted him once to let him know I was going to the apartment to pick up some stuff. I haven't completely moved out yet, I took the essentials and figured I'd get the rest whenever I could. I still have the keys to the apartment and he hasn't asked for them back yet. Besides the emails about the bills and the one text, I haven't had any kind of contact. I have my own apartment and have been enjoying being on my own. I've been going out with friends and keeping busy doing all kinds of things.

Then this weekend, I get a random text from his best friend. Me and him talk and are friends because he's my ex's best friend, but that's it. He only contacts me when he needs to get in touch with my ex or when he needs a woman's advice, but even then it's usually through my ex somehow. He asked how I was doing and how I liked the new apartment. And then, of course, he brings up my ex. Tells me that he realized how much easier it was to get in contact with my ex when he was with me. That made me so upset. I text him back telling him that he shouldn't contact me to talk about him. Why would he do that anyway?

So I ignored it all weekend. Went to a birthday party, bought paint for my new apartment, did some school work, and then I woke up this morning feeling horrible. I couldn't ignore it anymore. I've been avoiding the topic of my ex like the plague. I won't even speak his name. And then one person mentions him to me, and here I am. I wanted to email him this morning. I don't know why. I miss him so much today. I cried all morning. When will this end? I need encouragement, motivation, support...

I'm right there with you. 3 weeks now of NC. The emotions you'll go through are like a huge roller coaster at Six Flags. One day you'll hate him and realize he was horrible for you, and be fine for 3 or 4 days. Then one day you'll wake up and miss him more than anything, and will do anything to reconcile. It's those very low days that build you. Ride out the storm, dear. You'll make it, I promise.

These feelings will pass, just let them. Have you visited "The No Contact Calender part 3" yet? You should.

It was extremely insensitive of his friend to contact you. Ignore him too for now. Hang in there - it will get easier as time goes on.

The best friend should not have contacted you, kind of out of line if you ask me. But we all go through this I am current on exactly a week of no contact and have not seen her in over a month about to go crazy but we have to stand our ground. I know this will get better, this site has been a great help, try read some other questions and answer them it has been helping me.

The feelings will pass but you will have peaks and valley's. Right now your in a valley but keep focused and the peaks will come back.