Well, first of all, please don't judge me. I have a prob. Here it goes: I have a boyfriend for for almost 3 years now,I'm not happy with him anymore.. im not so materialistic or whatsoever but here's the thing, he has not given me anything until now. He doesn't give me roses,chocolates(well by request he does),no nothing.But the most precious thing that he has given me was when he introduced me to his family.I don't have a family of my own so it's a big thing for me.anyways,I am always the one spending every time we go out on a date. He's not poor.he just doesn't have job yet.I started to feel cold.I always catch him not telling the truth.I once caught him seeing another girl.and to my depression, I started chatting online, past time,just to forget what happened and all that.one day, my friend introduced me to her friend. Well, cyber friend, she met him online.we started chatting everyday until one day I realized that I feel something for him. A feeling that I haven't felt before. I can feel that he is so into me unlike my boyfriend.I felt this kind of magic that every time we chat, there's a spark. I always think of this guy each time I wake up and go to sleep.he really knows how to make me happy and what makes me smile.no wonder he captured my heart.this new guy doesn't know that my boyfriend and I are still together.so to cut it short, this new guy and I decided to make our relationship official.so you can call me a two timer. I don't know who to choose. I don't know if I should go for someone who makes me happy or for someone I am used to being with and what they call "right".please help me. I would really appreciate you response..
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If you would rather explore other options, and opportunities, simply end it with the boyfriend, and pursue something with the new guy. No shame in that, but cheating, and dishonesty, is a road you don't have to go down, unless you want to have your cake, and eat it to. Just be honest about how you really feel, and there will be no confusion at all.

If you aren't willing to take the risk involved with developing any relationship, don't do it. Don't hold on to your boyfriend as a back stop for having someone if the new guy doesn't work. That's cheating, unfair and selfish.

Hi
I know it is really difficult when your head is pulling you one side and your heart is pulling you to the other. Then there is this other thing of what's right and what's wrong. We really know how to complicate matters.
Keep it simple. You have three options.
Listen to the voices in your head- Listen to your feelings or- I really don't know who decides what's right an wrong.

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Kelly.