I met a guy in high school and we became really good friends. We then decided to date and after a while we decided to date exclusivly. We were juniors in high school. After about six months he cheated on me, he slept with my best friend after I found out I asked if he had cheated on me before and he said there was one other but they just made out. I decided to give him another chance we have been together since I felt like it made us stonger and things were amazing for a long time then he started going out with his friends a lot and just recently we broke up because one night he went with his friends to a bar and slept with another girl it has been three and a half years since the last time he did it we are not married yet but we have talked about it many times he wants me to take him back again and I really want to make this work because I love him so much but I am scared for our future do you think that this could really work or do you believe the old saying once a cheater always a cheater.

That was how many times he cheated on you? UM you do know that your beautiful and you can have any man you want right? Go out and meet some people and make new friends. Somewhere where he is not. Yes I promise you he will cheat again. Ditch the zero and find you a hero.

Unless you have been using protection for sex, you should be more scared of all sorts of disease he could be bringing back to you.

He is a dog, he cheats and cheats and cheats. He will not change.
Dump this dog and start making new friends. He will tell you anything and everything he thinks you want to hear.

If you want to keep getting hurt, this is the guy for you, don't believe the "I will change" I won't do it again, this is just BS guys say when they are caught, if you know of 3 times, it is most likely many times that.

Don't mean to scare you but get yourself tested for any sexually transmitted diseases.

I agree with the other comments. Some people cheat in a relationship, then realize what they did was wrong. However, there are people who cheat throughout their relationship without any remorse. Trust is the foundation for a relationship. This boyfriend of yours is a real jerk, you deserve someone who is loyal and trustworthy. Walk away from your so call relationship, you'll be all right. There's lots of single guys out there, I know you will find one that treats you right.

It's been 3 1/2 years since he last cheated... Are you sure? Whatever the case may be, you are young, you have your whole entire life ahead of you to make new friends, date, meet new people, and find that one guy who doesn't want another living human being but you!
Good Luck!

Marry this cheatin' moron so after you have his babies you can cry oh,wo is me he broke my heart with my best friend again. I don't care how much you love him,you've already wasted YEARS with this cheater.How much more can you take. :( Get away now,before you really screw up with this loser and find a real man! :cool: :cool:

I believe the old saying "once a cheater, always a cheater." He's not a faithful person and obviously doesn't care about you or his feelings. Steer clear of him. He's not good enough for you and you deserve better.

I agree with above! Why give this guy another chance to hurt you again. That "old saying" is just that FOR A REASON. If you take this guy back he will walk all over you again, and to be blunt about it that's probably why he wants you back. Its funny how people can be nice to you when they want something from you. It sounds like you have a lot to offer, why not give that to someone that acually deserves it? :cool:

He might make a good husband to someone down the road in 10 to 15 years from now, but kids your age experiment with their sexuality and compete with peers until they finally mature - this is a fact of life, for you too. All girls want that final picture of a white wedding from the age of 9 on, but it's not reality, so get used to it. It depends on how you handle your part in the game-playing until you all grow up. Concentrate on school and what you want for your future, then pick a guy just for you who knows that the games are over. There is no harm in a little petting, but don't let it lead it away from your important goal, and that's to have a good future first. Like I said, have fun, but stay safe, please...

Growing up can be fun, if you don't go overboard.

Hi,
Others have answered you, and I am a little late with this answer! I agree with all the others. You have picked a "loser"!
Love hurts, and I have been there. At 63 yrs old, now married for 28 yrs, (second marriage, first one ended in divorce after 7 yrs), I have been through the same thing many years ago.
You can get over this person. He will only hurt you more later, and it will be worse then than it is now.
You have your whole life ahead of you, and with over half the marriages in the US ending in divorce, why stick with someone where your chances of success are much, much less?
I do wish you the best, and hope you can come to terms with this, and move on. His past history is very bad, and shows he does not respect you as a person. You will eventually find someone who does care, respect you, and will be honest with you; not wanting to find other woman. He will have you; and won't need anyone else!

Please, Please, Please, don't marry this guy and if you do, tie your tubes! Don't bring children into this kind of relationship. You know he's a cheater, always has been, always will be. This male has no character and no matter if he stands on his head, crawls on his knees through broken glass or swears on his mother's grave, he WILL DO IT AGAIN! The question here is, why do you feel like you are not worthy of a man who will love you and respect you and treat you right? Love, respect... doesn't act like that. He has no commitment to you, ring or no ring. Be real honest and picture yourself married to this guy 5 years from now, 10 years from now... 1 maybe 2 kids... unhappy because you're always wondering where he is and what he's doing... what kind of life is that for you and your kids? Divorce, sure, that comes easy nowadays. Now, how easy is that going to be on your kids having two homes and visits from a cheater dad whom they will probably never respect. Oh and by the way, they may not respect you either for allowing this man to continue to treat you this way. For marrying him even though you KNEW the kind of person he was. Marriage will not change him. Kids will not change him. I don't care how much time you've wasted with this guy, walk away now before it's too late and please don't look back, no matter what. I'm not trying to be mean or hurt your feelings, but blowing sunshine down your back won't help you either. Please leave him for good. You can and will find another, but keep your eyes and ears open to the next one and choose better. The first sign of trouble, walk away. Trust your true instincts.

Dear, you will never be able to fully trust him again, ever. So don't step into something you know will not work, no matter how hard you try, he'll stray again no matter how many promises he makes. He needs to grow up, but you don't need to be his mother. You deserve better so find someone who you get respect from and can trust without a doubt. It might take a little time, but Mr Right is out there. Again, good luck!