Within the past three weeks one of my best friends (since primary school), had a serious breakup with her boyfriend. I have always been there for her and of course she called me while she was at the bar and needed someone to talk to. I immediately ran in and started a four hour conversation with her. Needles to say, nearing the end of the night, we were both drunk and spilling out our guts to each other. Honestly, there has always been something between us. She told me that she has been dreaming of us being together for the past several years, amongst other very strong and serious comments. She also told me that a few months prior one of her friends wanted to ask me out, but she convinced her not to because she was so jelous. I have felt the same way towards her for a long time. However, our lives kept us apart (I'm away at college and she's back at home working). After spilling our guts, we came to the realization that something could work. We had a sober cab bring us home and I walked her into her bedroom and she attempted to make out with me - I turned her down as we were both drunk and she was still just getting over a long relationship.

A few days later she texted me and said that she was honest and sincere in everything that she said to me that night, but needed time and couldn't rush things - which I thought was understandable. In our nearly 15 years of knowing each other she has never betrayed my trust and I've never betrayed her trust.

As I'm at school during the week, I can only see her on the weekends. I spent Friday night at her house last weekend and we fooled around a little bit. I also stayed at her house this Friday until 3 in the morning and she decided it was too much, too soon and we decided it would be best if I went home. I asked her today if I pushed things too far, she said no, but that I need to remember she needs time.

As I said, she tells me she needs time to heal after the breakup (frankly, I think I need time too - I care for her so much, that I don't want to rush things or hurt her in anyway). When she says she needs time, what does this mean - no contact, no kissing, time before what? She says she needs at least a month to heal her wounds. She also tells me she's scared because she's been day dreaming of us building a house and having kids. Remember, we've no each other and lived near each other (within a mile) nearly all our lives. So needless to say it is a little scary, and we both don't want to hurt each other - but there is definitely something there, but I don't want to loose it.

Please, this is a sticky situation, does anyone have any advice?

It means she needs to heal from her break up, and you need to keep your distance as you could be a rebound, or worse. No physical stuff at all and no pressure from you about where you stand and such. If you can't be a friend then stay away from her and give her what she needs, time and space. You both need it to sort out these intense feelings, and not to confuse each other.