I have known him since I was young and he was a player. After he went his way and I went mine. Years later, now I'm 27 in two days, and we've been exclusive 4months. And because I had a huge crush on him and loved him when I was young, being with him everyday, morning and nights, I have become so attached that one sweet thing he does would make me melt, cause I've known him all my life not to be so sweet. I know he has strong feelings for me but we have recently had a fall out for 2 weeks last month. My supposed best friend told him things like I am to busy, which is not true.

Messages told me, he has a girlfriend and to move on. I found out when we got back together that she was calling him and went to his work and baked him a cake etc. So I cut ties with both of them until he came back, and realized, I guess, he did love me and he hasn't felt this way about anyone. He says and asks me why he feels this way.. I noticed he does try and make me happy but there's a few things that bother me. One he can tell me I can't talk to people, and I have no idea who he talks to. He tells me to hide and he doesn't want anyone knowing we're together. I don't get why but I went along thinking he's just not ready cause it will be a big thing to everyone we both grew up with. The same people everyone knows everyone. I've introduced him to my friends he did too at the beginning, then told them we broke up when we hadn't. I never question cause he yells at me when I do, and I get so insecure about myself. Do I stay at home all the time just so he knows I'm not cheating, because he accuses me about it.

I feel so alone and I don't know if it's my problem or his. Last couple nights he would get random calls at all hours, and it's always girls. One he told me that like him then I still let him talk. I'm hurt when he's at his place and I'm home. I've been staying up all night while his sleeping like a baby. When I try to call him he tells me he's going sleep at 7.30 pm but he tells me he doesn't sleep till 12, or 1 Tonight he was upset. He picked me up, and kind of looked sad, but didn't talk about it. Then took me to the beach. We had a beautiful day. On the way back someone called and he said it was work And he dropped me home.

Since then he's been on the phone to other girls. Every time I try to call he says he will call me later which he usually will be calling me. He had a laugh with some girls and by 12 he rang me and said he's going sleep. I have waited all night patiently with no arguing as usual, when he does this, but this time I just broke up with him because a half hour later he said his going gym and hasn't picked up since. I guess cause I broke it off, or his with her, that girl who lives next to him, who he told he broke up with me.

They are friends he said. She's always messaged on weekends, and nights, as if she's an obsessed. But I don't get this why would he make me fall for him when I told him at the beginning if you want to cheat just break up with me, so none of us can get hurt vise versa. Now I feel like an idiot cause he said I am. He says mean things to me when I all I asked was are you sleeping babe ? :(( I broke it off cause I can't handle being hurt anymore, but now I just want to go back to my beautiful life where I felt happy and not hurt.

As I was writing this he called and I guess he didn't want to see my message with me, saying I can't be with him anymore. It's all so confusing, I'm just so hurt and he thinks I'm fine cause I can't show him, and I'm not the type to cause I play the strong girl that doesn't cry but my heart aches. Lately I start to cry when I haven't cried for 3 years.

Any advise? Anyone out there who can help me get motivated and back to my life where all my goals were being met instead of revolving all my world based on how he treats me each day? Anything would be good. I don't have a mother who to talk to so I thought maybe someone can tell me how to be a women cause I'm breaking down again..

Stop any and all contact with him, no phone calls, erase any message, don't even listen to it.
Delete his emails or his texts ( without reading them) And do this for weeks and weeks, till you don't care what he does,

An I doing the rite thing ? What is he thinking ? What am I really from an outsiders point of view and is it fair or am I over reacting ?

I will try that from now thank you for your fast response Fr_chuck appreciate it and my autocorrect is terrible I just noticed

From the start go no contact, get out of your ex life leave and never be seen again. Find friends or hobbies to keep you doing something like working out, or go back to school like I did and better yourself. And that one day when your ex see you and you doing just find without them they will truly understand that it was their lost not yours.

Thanks jimmy but how do I break it off n leave him knowing y caus he's been spending time with me again n his put up with me expressing myself n says he was joking don't know what I'm doing to b honest I feel I love him but I want to be respected n is him flirting with other girls wrong ? Or am I just over reacting ?

You have a right to be respected and treated well, and that's not what he is doing, and now he is being nice so you take him back. How about telling him to leave you alone. Or keep wasting your time and heart on someone that doesn't deserve either.