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    Jun 20, 2012, 11:52 AM
    How to make a six-year-old relationship work?
    Hi, This is my last source, please help.

    I was seeing this guy since I was 19 years old. We fell in love. We belonged to different religion. I'm a Parsi and he is a Muslim. Keeping that in mind I initially told him that I'm not looking forward to a serious relationship. But as time passed we fell for each other and later he proposed me marriage after 2 years. Initially I said no but later he convinced me.

    After 4 years of my total relationship with him one day my dad heard from somewhere that I was going around with some one who is not of the same religion. My dad came home and he asked about it but I flatly denied and my dad believed me, but later I realized that what I was doing to my dad is wrong. Hence I broke up with the relationship unwillingly. But I was not able to forget him no matter how so ever I tried. I fell into a relationship later with another guy so that I could forget my past but I was wrong. I was still not able to get him out of my mind under any circumstances. So not complicating the other person's life further I broke up again with the other guy who was of the same caste also. I got back with my previous boyfriend as I was unable to stay without him.

    Current situation: We both are together but he says he does not love me the way he use to do earlier. I was shattered. He wants me to become more trendy, stylish and lose a little more weight. I'm also working on it for the same. What else I can do to ignite the same love. I know I can't force him. But there must be some way out. I'm sure. Please advise. I really love him and can't stay away from him. I want him to love me madly. Help.

    Thank you.
    Farz.
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    Jun 20, 2012, 12:41 PM
    Young lady, making some one fall madly in love with you is an absolutely foolish notion, and is the false idea of love that leaves you completely frustrated, because it will never work, no matter what you try.

    Instead let him love you as you are without these SILLY changes he wants. Then you will benefit from a real healthy love, and not be mislead by just pleasing his ideas of what YOU should be for HIM!!

    What's worse is you must go back to LYING to your own father! That's no good either!! You cater to a husband, not a boyfriend who can never be a husband, and that's obvious after 4 years isn't it??

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