Sorry about the long description, I just want to portray the situation as best as possible. Thanks for any help.

All right so a week and a half ago me and my girlfriend broke up. She broke up with me, and it kind of came out of no where. Things have been crazy good since we got together minus a few fights here or there. We were planning on moving in together in 5 months, and we were both really excited for it.

I feel like I've come to peace with the problems I had, I had begun to seriously consider proposing even though in hindsight I was not ready, this being in the back of my mind almost made me look for things wrong and get a little insecure. We had one incident were I got jealous of her putting some friends before me, which was completely out of character for me and I know can't happen, but it did. Then it happened once more the next night, except by the end of it I had realized more that I was over reacting and apologized and told her I was going through some insecurities, and the talk led to both of us admitting we were pulling away a little bit.

The next morning I brought it up again and asked if I should be concerned about her pulling away, if it was serious or not, she said it was (she is always very honest and doesn't just say something because it is what you want to hear). I didn't handle the situation well and gave her an ultimatum, which is never a good idea... Well that didn't go well and that night I came and apologized for it, and it went OK, she said she just needed some space to think and that she is just really confused about everything.

So I tried to give her space but had a hard time with it, the next two days I was acting a little desperate with her, and then I told her we should just take a week to think about things and then we would have a date. So the week went by and we had our date, it went great and at the end of it we began talking about things, we had a civil conversation with no fighting, she said she wasn't sure still and that she was just shutting down and thought we needed to break up, I asked if she was sure and when she said yes, I told her I respect her decision sat and thought for a couple minutes and then said goodbye. During the talk she told me that she loved me and is worried she may regret this, and doesn't understand what is going on with her and that it is no one else or any wrong doing, I completely believe her because she is always honest, really honest.

This happened a week and a half ago and we only talked once when we ran into each other at school, it was short and friendly. I am doing much better, but definitely want her back, but am not sure the best way to go about it. I figured I would give it a month without initiating conversation, if we run into each other I will be friendly, I'm not trying to ignore her, but rather give her space. What do you guys think?

The key words are-'she thought we needed to break up'-that;s what this is,a breakup.

The 'space'thing,'I don't know what's going on' thing are just a way of trying to soften the blow.

Give her all the space in the world,go about your business and heal from being dumped.

You didn't say how long you had been together, but rule of thumb when you get dumped, the ball is in her court to change her mind, without any influence from you.

I think your 30 day plan is a good start though, as long as you put that time to good use and find happiness in just being you. Who knows what life will surprise you with.

Just give her some time and space.it will help!

We have been together almost 2 years. And I'm trying to get into the mindset that its over and that I need to just move on, and to an extent it is working. I think I need my space as well, so for now I will stick with the month, and when the time comes try to determine if I'm even ready to talk to her.

I really want to get back together with her, but I don't want to be the influence driving us back together, or play any games.

So for now, I will just keep doing what I am and not initiate any sort of conversation with her, you are right the ball is in her court. I just need to worry about myself and hopefully she will come around on her own, but just in case I need to just keep trying to move on like amicon said.

Thanks for the help

And once the month is up,you might find yourself having a completely different mindset...