We have been together for years, ups, and downs, and we have a horrible falling out. I ended up hurting her not intentional. We decided to break with the hopes of getting back together, but I was dumb. I just said things that made it worse, when I thought it was helping, and it pushed her away. I love her more than anything else in this world. She thinks I wouldn't wait on her but that's never the case.

She messaged me and told me all that was wrong, and bothered her, and I was shocked the perceptions I had given her, and the pain I wasn't aware of. I have been hurt so deeply worse, and when she told me I opened up too late. I can't control when my heart opens, I'm sorry, I wished I could. The lines repeat in my head I love you, but its not enough to save us, kills me.

We been broken up 2 months now, and she recently ask about the rings if she could keep the one I bought for her, as I haven't given it to her as yet, or I want to give hers back. But its hers, always will be. I will wait forever until she forgives me. I truly don't want to lose her. I'm deeply dying here, one mistake can ruin so much. Please help me.

Dude you have waited two months and if she isn't over it or wants you back you have to get over the romantic notions, and regroup. How old are you both? How long have you been together?

Being dumped sucks for any reason, and I presume you still are talking, right? No wonder you are a mess. Get hold of yourself, dude.

Give her the ring, or let her keep it if she already has is. Cut all ties, go no contact, and stop COMMUNICATION with her... this is only going to hurt YOU. You need to start getting over her.

We were best friends for years before we dated and it happened out of the blue I was shaky for this exact reason that if we got together and break up it will ruin what we had.she voiced that she is still pissed about the first time she proposed and I told her I wasn't a hundred that this girl deserves my all may seem silly but back then I thought honesty was key.we are both in our mid twenties I just felt misunderstood I wasn't given a fair chance to rebuild I guess.we spoken like three time over the 2 months she kept back and forth that she wanted to eventually then she said she loves me but its not enough to save us.she has voiced that she is still mad and upset at me etc and we can talk as along as its not pertaining to anything personal with us.I still have the ring both of them cause I made plans to give her the one I bought on a special occasion now I don't know its still hers and I will give her but I told her when we bother in a good place mentally and emotionally and she has forgiven me and we can part like mature people or even start a new better friendship from scratch.we ended on a silly accident drinking and tempers flaring but that's no excuse.but she believes I have no reason to be mad she was the one was embarrassed she's very prideful like that

We were together for 3 yrs

The reasons don't matter, and for your own sake, leave her alone while you make healing a priority, NOT a friendship. Keep the rings, or better yet, pawn them, sell them, or see how you feel after 6 months of solid uninterrupted healing.

Thank you that is great advice I won't pawn them I will keep them and as time goes by I will see if my feelings remained the same.I still get the anxiety of seeing her so soon after and I make all efforts such as avoiding regular hang out spots I know that can not last forever but just for now. I spent most time at home reading and focusing on school and a new career anything I can do to distract myself but the world is so small as the saying goes worst living in a small country

A close friend of ours birthday is coming up and my anxiety level is high from seeing she has verbal stated she s still mad and upset at me and as such I know she will be cold and try to alienate me because that her natural defense mechanism.I haven't seen her since February its odd but instead of me feeling less for her I feeling more and its nerve wrecking I seriously need some advise she's my first true love and even when I focus on her negative aspects I can't stay mad for long I accept her for who she is.All these emotions and heartache is new to me and this is not even my first relationship .PLease help

By now you must be recognizing you are allowing your own feelings to drive you crazy. If you aren't going to a party to mingle and have fun with friends you simply don't go. If you are so scared of seeing an ex, and can't be civil, no matter what, or ignore her, then you better stay at home.

If you have so little faith in yourself control, then that's the issue to address. Its only been a month or so, and while old feelings linger for a while after a break up, you don't let them drive you crazy. Anxiety is a form of FEAR, and requires COURAGE to overcome it.

Thank you for the honesty its true I decide I won't go I know can control my posture but my eyes are a dead give away yes that fear is there so I will not go I'm just not ready for that encounter as yet.

Good decision based on facts you know about yourself.