2005 was a beautiful year for me. I had reuntite with the person I wanted to marry and spend my life with since 2000 it didn't happened because he was married when I first came to this country. I knew the person he was back then, but since we where young I thought he might've changed and matured. Come to know he didn't, he was seeing already a person and come to know she had something to do with his divorce, she had 4 kids from different men and she was a Nuyorican, (puerto Rican) born in New York. She was a wild 40 year old that didn't work and was always on her thing going out and who knows what else, They were 3 years of hell cause I didn't come to know anything until the man I loved lost his company and lost his home, When he had his Co. he had it made, had money and many friends, I was the same with him, I didn't care about what he had, cause in the year 2000, he had nothing so I really loved him for the person he was with me and not for what he had, Im very independent and always worked and supported myself, didn't care about diamonds or trips. I just wanted his unconditional love and honesty. 2008 he lost everything now we are living together and we are trying to forget about the past and build a new life together, I have this person from his past (a summer fling) that will not stop e.mailing him and sending him messages saying how much she misses him, I'm tiered of still dealing with issues like these, I know for a fact he's not seeing anyone, but I'm not that sure if she's stopped or :confused:... I don't know what to think I know where this person works and where she hangs out, but I've had so much drama I can't stand it anymore, I would like to begin a fresh start but HIS past hunts him and Me!! I really don't know what to do... PLease people advise me on my situation, Me personally can give excellent advice to anyone who has an issue, but Me!? On my life Ireally can't decide what to do best... :([

Wow! Sounds like you've both had a lot to deal with! Firstly, if its your partners past that is the biggest problem, then its up to him to shut those doors or keep them open as he chooses. If he wants a new start from this as you do then its easy to block her from his emails, and he'll never receive anything more from her. With no response she'll eventually get the picture.

If your partner chooses not to do this, then you have to respect that he has a past and you both need to deal the best you can with it from now on. Trust him and don't let it bother you. Create a life of peace and order and love inside your home and when nothing is happening don't worry about the next time his past will raise its ugly head... just concentrate on the now and appreciate the fact that you're together NOW! That's amazing after all this time and all these problems and circumstances.

Just take 1 day at a time and try not to focus on problems and enjoy being together and have lots of fun and don't let this past control you both now.. :)

Hope this is helpful

I think your expecting to get a silk purse from a pigs ear, and need to realize you'll never be happy with a guy who has so much baggage from his past and won't change for you.

Maybe its you who should forget the past, and start enjoying your present without him, so you can have a chance at future happiness.