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Ifa guy was cheating on his grilfriend and he had the other girl at his place or he was at hers would he still be texting his girlfriend for most of the night?

You are stating a hypothetical case and there is no answer. Would I text, would you text, would anyone text? Yes, if we didn't care about the person we were with.

Are you trying to say you are the woman who spent the night with this guy?

OK so I was texting my boyfriend the other night and it was taking him like 10 to 15 minutes for him to reply to me.when I asked him why it was taking so long he said it was because he was watching the basketball game.then he said he was going to walk to the store and he would text me when he got back,which he did almost a half hour later.so my question is do you think he had another girl at his place and was cheating on me or should I just believe him?I did confront him about it and he said he didn't have anyone with him and he doesn't want me to treat him like the other jerks that had did me wrong in the past.please help

If you treat every guy like all the jerks in the past, you're going to have an extremely long line of ex jerks.

So it takes him 10 - 15 minutes to reply while he's watching a game or half an hour after he's walked to a store and mostly likely catching up on what he's missed in that time with that game?

Honestly, what guy is going to reply to anyone 'promptly' while watching sport. Unless its one he dosen't follow. Even then you'd be hard pushed. To be honest no one gets a reply from me either unless my team beats theirs.

Get over the insecurities and leave the poor guy alone. If he was cheating on you a: I'm fairly sure he wouldn't of replied at all, and b: keep it up and 'confronting' him.. he'll soon be an ex.

Kate, I think a bit more background would be helpful.

How old are you?
How long have you been dating this male?
Is this the first time he has done anything that caused you to be concerned?
How was it between your last relationship and this one?

You have insecurities. They are your own and you have to work on them.

If you don't trust him, then there is nothing he can say or do to change your perceptions. In fact, the more he tries the more damage will be done to your relationship.

He was watching a game. He was walking to and from a store with shopping in between. Either you believe him and let it go or you don't and let him go.

Be realistic. He was watching a game this time. How much of a melt down would you have if he was in the shower/bathroom or asleep and took longer to get back to you? If he is doing laundry or dishes? Cooking? Eating? Working? School?

What if you don't get one of his texts or can't answer immediately? Do you want him accusing you of cheating?

Don't rely solely on him for your emotional and mental support. You will be much healthier (and so will the relationship) if both have lives outside the relationship. It helps keep insecurities down if you give yourself ways to build up your self-esteem that do not depend on him.

How would a guy act and feel if his girl keept accusing him of cheating when he's really not?like say she was nagging him about it even though he keeps telling her he's not,he doesn't want anyone but her and she is the one for him.he also tells her that she can go and stay at his place anytime for as long as she wants.

That really depends on the guy. There are some red flags that I have learned about from a past relationship, such as a significant other getting extremely defensive or jealous. Though defensiveness or jealousy are red flags for me (and some others who have certain experiences) it doesn't mean that a defensive/jealous guy IS cheating.

Usually the rule is: if they have nothing to hide, they'll be calm and steady. Circumstantially, though, he may be totally innocent but still get riled up when accused.

Hmm, if I had been cheating and been confronted about it, I think I would become extremely aggitated, sweating and something like if you get caught with something you really shouldn't have said or done..
Haven't tried it though as of yet.. and hopefully never!

If haven't, I would be calm and do my very best in a sincere way to comfort my significant other of all the reason why she's the one and I would need no other..

OK so my friend is in a realationship with this guy and she has accused him of cheating before but she knows he hasn't but she is still insercure or how ever you spellthat with the herself.so she said she has been on the phone with him for pver an hour for the past few nights but every time 12 comes along he's like I'm going to bed.but last night she said something to him about it because she thinks that he is talking to another girl after 12.he says he's not doing that and he says why would I wait until after 12 to talk to another girl.and if she really thinks that he would hang up from her just to talk tosomeone else then why does she put up with him.I think she is crazy and she should just trust him.I mean he really hasn't given her a reason not to.but I just want to kow what you think,do you think he is telling the truth?

I think you tell your friend to either drop this paranoid insecure witch hunt and either get help, or stay out of a relationship.

When you have fear without any evidence you are to unhealthy to be in a healthy relationship, and even the most loving partner gets sick of being accused for nothing.

You tell your friend, either get help, or get out of this relationship, or get dumped by a frustrated partner.

You never did answer the question of your age, and there is no need to keep starting new questions about the same thing especially since you offer no new information.

YOU have issues, little girl.

Go see a counselor.

He's probably not cheating on you.

BUT---if you keep ACCUSING him of it, he might do it just because you expect him to.

Go see a counselor, and let this guy date someone who doesn't have as many trust issues.

Kate, do you read your previous threads before starting a new one that gets merged with the others?

I really hope that you don't have a friend who is as insecure as you are.

The advice is still the same:

Either you trust and believe him and let it go or you don't trust him and let him go.

Do you trust yourself? Do you have any interests outside the relationship that help you feel better and more secure about yourself?

If a guy has sex with one girl in the afternoon would he go and have sex with another girl that night and also do guys who are almost 40 have good sex drives?because I have known guys who wouldn't do that but are most guys like that?

Hello k:

He sure would. I've nailed 3 chicks in one 24 hour period. Age has nothing to do with it.

excon

What does it mean when a guy says word to mother boo

It's a derogatory rely, as in what are you *****ing' about or what are you nagging me for.

If a guy MAKES you feel insecure and suspicious, why are you with him then?

'On the what does a guy mean when he says...' Ask him what he means. You are confused ask for clarification.


As for the sex with more than one woman in a day:

How old are you? Is this about the same male who you don't trust and think is cheating on you?

If you won't respond to previously asked questions, it is very difficult to give you accurate advice.

Please, if you want advice, give us some feedback.