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    Nov 30, 2008, 04:28 PM
    How do you handle felling when you miss a person a lot
    Hi, My name is Lucy,

    I am in a constant struggle of trying not to miss a person who was special to me. Its been a while I haven't seen this person. I am not sure if I am going to see this person again. In short phrase, how do I cope with these fellins. I am not sure anymore how to cope with this. :confused:
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    Nov 30, 2008, 04:40 PM

    It ALWAYS helps to be around people you love. It helps keep your mind off that person.

    My love recently passed away. I constantly have friends around me. They help out a great deal. Best of luck and God bless ;)
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    Nov 30, 2008, 04:57 PM
    How can you thing about the same person over the course of six years?
    Hi Southerngalp!

    Nice talking to you, I believe you missunderstand about my message, but its OK because I didn't explained well enough. This special person is alive. It is my teacher. Do you think I am real nuts or insane because I cannot get over this person over five years? Is it something wrong with me?I tried so many times to forget him completely and its impossible. The more I tried to suppress this felling I have for him the more miserable I become. I constatly tried to suppress these fellings without no success because my rational mind says its imposible.
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    Nov 30, 2008, 05:08 PM

    Well it usually helps by not seeing them even more. Time is the best!

    Plan trips away and stay busy! If you are alone which you will be at times + lonely, try some of the following which I do:

    Read book, watch TV dvd series, go to the gym, build website or study.

    I am also in the same situation as you as well. Tho reality has kind of overwhelmed any kind of hope I did have. You just got to accept you may never see them again and try to move on.
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    Nov 30, 2008, 05:13 PM

    I know what you meant :)

    I know this person is still alive, but we both miss these people. That's all I was trying to get at.

    Did you have an emotional relationship with your teacher?

    Or you just miss him as a human being/ nice person?
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    Nov 30, 2008, 05:23 PM
    Hi,
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    Nov 30, 2008, 05:27 PM
    Hi

    I don't miss him as a human being like I miss my mom or my sibblings. Unfortunatully I was and still am emotionally attached to him.

    Sorry for the late reply

    Thanks
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    Nov 30, 2008, 05:35 PM

    I wouldn't say you are nuts are insane. Love is hard to overcome.

    But you do need to move on. You are only hurting and causing stress for yourself.

    Go out and meet people.

    I assume you are not together anymore because he was your teacher?

    That would have been sign number ONE to not get involved. Something bad is just bound to happen.
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    Nov 30, 2008, 05:37 PM
    As a human being or emotionally attached ?
    I wasn't sure I typed my answer in the right spot

    I don't miss him as a human being like I miss my mom or my sibblings. Unfortunatully I was and still am emotionally attached to him.

    Sorry for the late reply.

    Thanks.
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    Nov 30, 2008, 05:38 PM

    I answered your other post.

    Your whole response was there.
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    Nov 30, 2008, 05:50 PM
    You got purposals from many guy but your mind is with the one you love, What do you d
    I have moved on. Its very easy for somebody to say move on. Its not like I am trying to pursue this teacher or stalk him. I did not see him for two years. But I am terrible afraid of these fellings of not being able to forget him. It frighthens me when I think of this. Why did God made it so hard for me? I never though how dificult this could be.

    Lucia...
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    Nov 30, 2008, 05:56 PM

    Eveything takes time. And that is one of the most annoying things

    I wish there was a pill we could take and boom! Over and done with..

    But here is the thing.

    We find the most strength threw all this pain.

    Even though it has been 6. use these feelings to better yourself.

    There is nothing wrong in FEELING :) we all do it. It's a B$$TH being human isn't it?

    But it is how we act on them feelings that count

    As long as these feeling don't effect your day to day life. And Futuer! Relationships
    You are OK

    Once those feelings bleed into those areas. You have a problem and need to work on it harder.

    Don't feel bad for thinking about him.
    Feel good that you remember the good points
    And also focus your life and your goals
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    Nov 30, 2008, 06:10 PM

    No you have not "moved on" since you are still afraid, and still not moving on to find someone else. You go out on dates with many other guys and try to find someone you like.
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    Nov 30, 2008, 06:10 PM
    I feel bad I wasn't able to expel him of my mind. I feel guilty thinking about him. I forced myself to forget him. Why is it so difficult?
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    Nov 30, 2008, 06:24 PM

    Because you are making it difficult.

    Just keep your mind occupied. You will meet someone new and everything will be better.
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    Dec 11, 2008, 07:15 PM
    Is it OK to feel attracted toward my teacher?
    Is it OK to feel attracted towards my teacher?
    Maybe its unusual, but I am 30 years old and I tend to feel attracted twards older guys. They ussually have class, they are more muture and have more experience.
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    Dec 11, 2008, 09:49 PM

    Throughout high school and especially college, I had a few crushes my teachers. It's humor nature to be attracted someone but you have to be able to control yourself because in life you will find that you will be attracted to people for different reasons.
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    Dec 11, 2008, 09:51 PM

    Are you still in contact with that one teacher, or is this a new teacher?
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    Dec 11, 2008, 10:02 PM

    Are you also attracted to your dentist, your gynecologist, your GP, your lawyer, and your minister?
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    #20

    Dec 11, 2008, 10:06 PM

    This was her post before... just some confusion...

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...rs-286777.html

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