It's hard for me to relate to a lot of the stuff that's put up here because I've only had one real relationship, I see a lot of people talking about their "most recent" ex, but I don't know how it feels because I only have one. I've heard the first cut is the deepest and that you never "get over" your first love but I've heard and read many contradicting ideas regarding this. Some say, you'll always be in love with your first, others say, you'll always "love" as in you'll care about them but not necessarily in love. As my ex told me in tears when I confronted her about moving on so quickly, she said "she'll always be in love with me, and want to be with me, but that it was unhealthy so we just have to live with the pain." Uh... live with pain? No thank you.

But anyway the big thing for me is the memories are the only thing that really bothers me now, I don't really care so much about her and her new guy, I don't know why, maybe its cause I know she's downgrading, or maybe I'm just over it, but the memories are def. what eat me up when I have a setback.

Fortunately for my ex, she moved right before we broke up, and we go to diff. schools so she hasn't really had to relive anything or visit the old places we used to go. Unfortunately for both of us, she's moving back, and her family's buying a house in the same neighborhood she used to live in which is the same neighborhood I live in, this upcoming summer. :-/ But anyway, I digress,

My questions are:
1) How do you feel about your first love, and how do the memories effect you?

2) Is it easier or harder to get over your future relationships?

3) And when they say, "You'll never get over your first" does get over mean "i'll think of them romantically" or "I'll always care about them"

Thank you and God bless :-)

You will either have good or bad memories of your first love, depending on how the break up and entire time was. There is no same for everyone.

And the word "LOVE" is thrown around loosely now aday. It is not the wonderful lasting love, not love like it was when you were with them.

For me, it is a wonderful memory a lot of the time, I remember the first kiss, and remember looking her in the eyes. Of course sometimes I remember her bashing in the roof of my car, so that sort of looses some of the love at times, but often the bad is forgotten over time and the good is remembered a lot more.

But if you are really really seroius about a love, they are never really forgotten, and if you can remember the best, it is often nice

But doesn't that hurt you, thinking about a love your no longer with?

For a while, there is a difference between fond memories at times and being obsessed.

They become good memories after you have moved on with one or more new loves and you look back not wanting them, only remembering

My first love still holds a special place in my heart, but you see, she and I were together over 30 years ago. I think of her sometimes and smile, but I don't "love"-LOVE her anymore.

We both are each married, and have children.

Ten years after we split, I had to have a "talk" with her husband because he beat her up once. I did it mainly because her brother wanted to KILL him. Her mother asked me to intervene. I found out the reason he beat her up was because she called out MY name while she was having sex with HIM. So, she must have still had feelings for me too.

There are several "loves" between her and the woman I eventually married, and even more sexual encounters. But she still has an extra special place in my heart, because we were each other's first sexual partners.

Before I could drive, I would jog the three miles over to her house, down the railroad tracks, to see her. Those were very special times for me, and I have enjoyed even thinking of them now.

But people change. Circumstances change, and life goes on. You will be all right, trust me. Time makes all things get better. It's funny how it works that way.

I wish you luck on finding the best love of all one day, TRUE love.

When you get to THAT level, you will know it.

Like right now, I can't even imagine my life without my wife. The most wonderful thing that's ever happened to me. Well, her and my children of course.

I have been blessed by loving, and being loved, by such an angel.

I'll never get over HER.

My 1st love has had a great impact on my other relationships.

My 1st love lied to me, and cheated on me. I am only now many years later starting to get over the trust issues I have with women.

Do I still love my 1st love? No. Do I still have a special place in my heart for her? No. Do I ever think of her? Yeah sure once in a blue moon.

I am still cautious to this day, always very aware of what is happening and perhaps even a bit suspicious at times when I think of how easy it is to believe false hoods fed by the one you love.

In short. My 1st love has had a great impact on my life in general. It was a hard lesson to learn.

My first love was a longdistance over two years. Very romantic but it fizzelled out when I moved to uni to study . I think of him maybe once a year.

My questions are:
1) How do you feel about your first love, and how do the memories effect you?
Fond memories, but I didn't stop at the first love, as the second one was better.
2) Is it easier or harder to get over your future relationships?
Experience teaches us the best way to handle ourselves in any situation.
3) And when they say, "You'll never get over your first" does get over mean "I'll think of them romantically" or "I'll always care about them"
If it was a good experience (except for the break up) you will remember it as such, but life wont let you just sit and wonder about it. There are just to many things to do.

Its been a long time since my first, no regrets, but I ain't going back!