I hate not knowing whether to be the one to make the first effort to text or talk to the person I like, or if I should just let things be and see when I see her next time. Part of me wants to make the first effort so to remind them that I haven't forgot about them, but at the same time I say to myself, if they really wanted to talk to me then they would text me. But then I think that what if they are thinking the same thing about me? I don't want to look annoying or vulnerable and sometimes I worry if I text them first that I will look annoying. It is also hard since this person is very flirty to me at times, and other times is very nervous and shy and avoids me. ( I think part of that is because they are in denial or the closet about being a lesbian). She knows I am a lesbian and acted very shy to me from the start ( I am very girly looking though). Me and this girl have hooked up before (and she made all the moves on me) long story short but she avoided me like the plague for over a year after the night we hooked up, but now she is back in my life now. She obviously hasn't accepted that she is gay yet but When I see her in person, at times she acts awkward shy and avoidy , and other times (usually when nobody is around) she ran up to me picked me up and gave me this huge hug almost knocking me to the ground! Totally surprising me. Those are just some examples. We are both in college by the way. When she avoids me or acts awkward or shy in person, it makes me think she hates my guts, but I obviously know she doesn't because then she would never be warm to me. And when she is warm it makes me think I should make more of an effort. The reason I think she doesn't text me first is because she is trying not to have feelings for me? What do you think? I just don't know what to do. But yeah any advice would help. Thanks

Life is short, if you like her, make an effort. If you don't, sit back and do nothing! More effort was spent writing a million words to anonymous people on the web who mean nothing to you. Life is too short to Waste, why spend time talking to careless anonymous people when you can be talking to the girl that does?

You don't seem to be stable.Ask yourself what exactly you need at this moment.If you fail to get an answer, just follow your heart.
Good luck!

Exactly what about the OP appears to be unstable to you?

A wise man once told me when I was young,

"You miss 100% of the swings you don't take"

Ironically enough, my father told me that when I played baseball as a kid. Didn't realize it could be put towards just about everything until I got a bit older.