How do I get over some one I really love we had a great relationship but I destroyed it by not going away with him. We were both married he did not give me any chance to tell my children or husband I was leaving them, so I stayed with my husband for the sake of my children to regret from this very day . As my husband and I are split up, and he is back with his wife I could not love my husband as I could not and can not get this man out of my head can some one help me please

You personally didn't destroy the relationship you were having with him, your relationship was doomed from the moment you stepped over your marital boundaries.

What in the world made you cheat on your husband with a married man? How were you even able to look your husband and children in the face?

He's married now, so you need to take the time to mourn about it and move on. There's no secret way to get over a failed relationship. Time is the only thing that eases the pain.

Now that you have no one, maybe its for the best that you work hard to build a life that brings you happiness, and learn from your past choices to make better ones. Funny how he stays with his wife, while tearing your already troubled marriage apart, but maybe there is a lesson to be learned from that too!

This may seem harsh, but it's called Karma.

This is what I have a hard time understanding about married couples. Ok, people get married in front of God and all of their family and friends. They make these vows to love each other in sickness and in health and yada yada yada and then they BREAK the vows.

Let me ask you something, what was going through your head when/while you were with this MARRIED man? Did you even think about your Husbands feelings and what this would do to him? Better yet, did you think about your children? The children YOU made with your Husband.

If you knew you were falling out of love with your Husband or when you started developing feelings for this other man, why didn't you just be honest with your Husband?

Now you come on here with this woe is me crap. "how do I get over someone"? I'm sorry, but I don't feel sorry for you. No No... I feel sorry for your Husband!

Your question SHOULD be, "How can I help fix myself to becoming a better person and parent?"

Sorry to be so blunt, this just struck a nerve.