How Do I get over Him?

iloveyousomuchx · Apr 5, 2009, 06:36 PM

Well I'm in love with my best friends ex. And I have been for over 6 months now. But I really don't know what to do. I really need to get over him because I know there's not a future for us.
I love him so much I just need him out of my life now. I still want to be friends because he is like my best friend. But he ignores me some days and this almost makes me cry. I'm so confused I just need help. Please anyone?
Thank you. X

mswhite84 · Apr 5, 2009, 06:44 PM

Sweetheart, you need to try really hard to not allow him to come between your happiness. If you know you need to get over him, why haven't you? Find someone else to crush on or be with. Being with someone else will help!

iloveyousomuchx · Apr 5, 2009, 06:45 PM

I really don't get why my heart can't say no, its so stupid, I know he's bad for me. But I can't stop loving him x
thank you though. X

mswhite84 · Apr 5, 2009, 06:48 PM

Do you have anyone else you have feelings for? Or want to become better acquainted with?

iloveyousomuchx · Apr 5, 2009, 06:50 PM

Yes, around 4 others lol. Could this be my way out? X

mswhite84 · Apr 5, 2009, 06:53 PM

I think you need for refocus your attention to one of the other four. This could boost your confidence and bring about a new you. Possibly, hooking up with someone new might help you forget this one guy. I promise, there are more guys then this one! ;)

iloveyousomuchx · Apr 5, 2009, 06:55 PM

thank you so much!
you've been a tremendous help :)
I can sleep now x
byeee
xxx

ylaira · Apr 6, 2009, 05:24 AM

Go no contact and switch your attention to something else.

iloveyousomuchx · Apr 6, 2009, 05:26 AM

Okay thank you.
I will try :)
Xx

ylaira · Apr 6, 2009, 05:29 AM

From my other posting

Originally Posted by ylaira

Don't call, don't text, don't greet happy birthday, happy holy week, don't contact. Stay ghost. You will just hurt yourself after wards. Resist the urge else it will take you longer to move on. Remember, going no contact is not because you're retaliating or you're being boastful. You're doing this to move on. Switch your attention to other things. Learn this coping techniques at his early stage.

Don't try, DO IT!!

iloveyousomuchx · Apr 6, 2009, 06:05 AM

Should I just delete everything where I have contact with him?

mswhite84 · Apr 6, 2009, 06:08 AM

That would be best. And then, go after the other guys you have your sight on!

iloveyousomuchx · Apr 6, 2009, 06:13 AM

Thank you so much.
Xx

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