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mbruck3 · Feb 6, 2012, 10:06 PM

So in short, going into this past weekend me and this girl who I've known for a few months now had sex and really started to hit it off a lot more than we thought would happen. Problem, though, is that she has this guy who she just broke up with him today and she swears it isn't me, but I really don't want it to ruin what we just started because we hit it off so well.

My question comes from the thought on how I should go about the right way pursuing her. Do I need to wait a while, should I still flirt with her or just be more of a friend support now? Thanks I need some advice.

CatieV · Feb 7, 2012, 03:44 PM

I would say "go with the flow". If you see/feel that at the moment she needs you as a friend only, be a friend only. If you get the vibe that she wants more (she obviously flirts with you), play along. Best of luck!

indya · Feb 9, 2012, 09:34 PM

I guess you should wait for a while. Do not flirt with her. Because right after a break-up a rebound relationship never has depth or lasts long.

Be there as a friend and support, but don't try to hit it off for at least a month. You don't want her to fall for you for the wrong reasons(like filling the gap her ex left in her life!).

I wish · Feb 10, 2012, 12:59 PM

You definitely need to hold off with her. You've become the rebound. Unless she can fully recover from her break up, it's not time for her to start a new relationship.

talaniman · Feb 10, 2012, 10:09 PM

So, you are smitten by someone that cheated and then dumped an ex. That makes you a rebound, an emotional tampon until she gets over the ex. Chances are, it will be your turn to get dumped when she is fully healed and ready to explore.

Never chase her in any way, and never get to deep into this one my friend, as this is a relationship of convenience already. More than likely she sticks around until she finds other options that are better. I doubt if her business with the ex is quite over yet either.

Your nose is already to open to see what she is about, and trust me the good sex will cloud your judgement even more. Protect yourself until all the facts come to light.