My boyfriend and I just relocated from Michigan to Oregon. Before we left, we agreed be in some weddings, thinking they would be spaced farther apart. One was my college roomates, the other is his brothers, which was originally slated for July.
We ended up having one wedding in May, and his brothers is at the end of this month.
On top of this, his sister graduated from high school, and decided to have a party at the end of May. We were expected to attend all three events, and all were/are in Michigan.
To add more fuel to the fire, neither of us have ample money to be doing these things... I was laid off for a month, and we still aren't back on our feet from that.
So, I attended my roomies wedding alone. I explained to her our financial difficulties, and she agreed to pay for my bridesmaids dress, and my hotel room.
I didn't think my boyfriend should attend the graduation... the airfare was nearly 700 dollars, and since we are seeing everyone THIS month, I thought he should explain what was going on, and decline.
He called, and his sister cried, and he decided to go.
Meanwhile, we have no money for groceries, bills, etc.
His family gave him no money for airfare, I don't think they understand what kind of situation we are in...
So, when I was angry that he went, he got angry with me, and made me feel like I was being selfish. Am I being selfish??
That's issue one... issue two... as I mentioned, we have the next wedding this month. Its his brother's. They haven't offerred to help with airfare, dress, tux, anything. Our airfare was over $,000. I feel like my boyfriend should let them know how difficult it is for us to go through with this. I want to go, but Im afraid I'm just going to keep thinking about how much money we're spending to be there in the first place, and not enjoy myself.
On top of this, I had to use MY credit card for the tickets, as he has no credit.
When I brought this up, he was angry with me. What do I do? I feel like if my friend was willing to help me out, why can't his family do the same for us?
Any thoughts??
Sorry so long!! :'(

There has never been any improvement on the best way to get someone to "get it..." by telling them. You need to be calm, clear and firm when you explain to him that your financial situation, contrary to what he may want to believe or tell his family, is such that it does not permit you to travel and incur all these expenses. As long as you remain calm, and explain very clearly why this traveling cannot continue, you should be able to get your point across without any unnecessary rancor. Whatever his reaction is, whether he understands and agrees or not, once you really lay it on the line (again, calmly) you should be able to convince him why it is not possible (at least, without any financial assistance from his family) to put up as comfortable front. If he insists on going anyway, then you can tell him he will need to get the airfare from HIS family. YOU cannot afford it.