Hello,

My boyfriend broke up with me Sunday morning via text. I went over to his house Friday night and he told me for the first time that he loved me during sex. A month before however he made it very clear that we no longer have sex but make love and that if he ever found out that I was cheating there would be serious consequences. My daughter had a birthday party Saturday and I needed extra money to make sure that everything came together. When I called him and asked him he said yes he could help and I met him at his house and he gave me money towards her party. After my daughters party my intentions were to go over his house although I never told him this. Instead I was so tired that she and I both we home and fell asleep. Sunday when I woke up I texted him saying good morning baby and he responded that he had been doing some thinking and he thought it was best if we didn't continue on. He explained that he just wanted to be alone and that if we continued on he would just be forcing himself to do so. He also stated that if we continued on that he would just end up treating me badly and he didn't want to do that. I can also admit that I wasn't the girlfriend I should have been meaning that he would make little comments that he wants somebody to wake up to in the morning. I stopped having sex with him as frequently as I should basically just pushing him away. Yesterday I did a stupid thing by texting him and begging him to come back that he finally said this is my last time responding and that was that. How do I go about getting him back? I feel so stupid in the fact that I kep texting yesterday and begging and asking can he just give me a second chance and telling him over and over that I love him. This is the man that I want as my husband. He is the one that I want to spend the rest of my life with. What should I do?

No offense, but from reading your post, your idea of a relationship seams WARPED! Why do you want him back? So he can treat you badly? So you can have sex as much as you "should" with him? If he gets pushed away because you don't have a solid frequency of sex, then so be it. He also told you he loved you during sex... that is always a red flag to me. I "love" a lot of women during sex, but I surely wouldn't break up with someone I love just because I don't get sex as much as I "should." You act like sex is like desert or something.

You have a daugter, NEVER chase a man... especially when he has made it clear he does not want you.

I know how you feel. I was recently dumped by my ex on my birthday and the same weekend as my graduation from law school. I really thought he was the one, but you know what? If he could do that to me, he's not the one.

I think the same goes for your ex. If he cares so little for you to break up with you via text, then he's definitely not the one for you! You deserve a sincere, genuine guy who cares about you a lot more than this jerk. Real men take responsibility for their actions; real men would never break up with someone via text. I know it's hard, but you've got to focus on moving on. Trust me on this one... I wake up wishing I had my ex back every morning, but deep down, I know that if he loved me as much as I love him, he would never have done this to me. The door swings one way... once they've left, they shouldn't be able to get back in.

I think you let this one go, as he doesn't want you. That's reason enough, sorry.

I don't see why you think he's the one. He didn't even have the respect to have a face to face conversation with you. He gave you some bogus explanation of wanting to be alone. Regardless of what he told you, the message is the same. He doesn't want to be with you anymore.

He said that he'd just end up treating you badly- well he's already done that. And very well it seems. He's got you feeling "stupid" and "begging" for a second chance. It's amazing that after the horrible things he said to you, he's got you believing that somehow the breakdown of the relationship is your fault because you weren't doing enough. Why would someone that cares for you make you feel this way. (No question mark because it's a rhetorical question.)

He's given you several reasons to move on; seize the opportunity.

Walk away, this guy obviously is flawed and not the one for you. He is too hot and cold, not someone you would want around you or your daughter. Let him go, you'll feel better about it later