How to deal with baby mama drama and your role as a stepmom
Asked Nov 9, 2009, 11:46 AM
I met a great guy back in February and we are now engaged. He was not in a relationship at the time but he told me about his past. He was with a hoodrat who came up pregnant. He signed the birth certificate and the child is a Jr. He said when the child was 8 months, people started telling him it wasn't his. He has yet to get a DNA. This pyscho ex has caused scenes in public, tried to run us over, etc. He has 4 girls by someone he was with for 15 years. He is a great father to them, tries to spend as much time with them as possible but the baby mama hates him with a passion. He didn't sign the birth certificate for these girls even though they are his. The girl threatens to put him on child support but never has. It's always drama... She curses him out in front of the girls, tells him he is a part time dad and tells him he will never see his kids again when things don't go her way. She has a new man in her life and is expecting. Im expecting as well. She has never said anything crazy to me until now. When the girls spend the night, I feed them, help them with their homework and we have a good time. Now she tells me since I want to play stepmama, I don't have to worry about ever seeing them again either. I have my own child to worry about but the drama is too much. How can a woman keep a man from their kids when they want to be in their life? I say things to my fiancé and try to be supportive but when I am telling the truth, he gets mad at me and that brings problems into our home. The baby mama and the pysco exgirlfriend are friends. He doesn't understand the problems this causes in our lives. Please advice...