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josvikiran · May 6, 2015, 08:12 PM

Guys this is kiran, please help me by giving answer. I loving a girl from 4 years. A few days back she shared our love to his parents, as usual they are not accepting and I asked what the problem. Actually we are same caste vysyas and my family converted to christians before my birth, and my age is 23 and sales professional and getting 27k per month. They are telling reason that I am converted and I don't have good background. I gave clarity to them regarding their problems that religion and background are not in my hands it already existed before my birth, now in my hand I have only job and character for both I am doing good. They convinced but they put a proposal that I have to be converted in to hindus and married her in hindu way. For this proposal my parents not accepting. What can I do? Please suggest any alternate for this. We are in very stress and she is not ready to elope.

talaniman · May 6, 2015, 08:46 PM

You either wait until they change their minds, or she is ready to elope. No point in stressing since you have no control over her, her parents, or yours either.

Oliver2011 · May 6, 2015, 08:48 PM

Wow. That's a tough one my friend.

smoothy · May 6, 2015, 09:08 PM

Expect that if you both do this against their wishes... you will both be paying for it the rest of your natural lives. Or at least theirs.

Fr_Chuck · May 7, 2015, 02:23 AM

First you should not have keep hidden a "love" and friendship for 4 years.
This is a big issue with traditional families and why either of you felt, that they would allow and accept it, I do not know.

So, you have three choices.
1. You convert against your parents wishes, to make his parents happy and marry him.

2. He marries you, against his parents wishes, ** you never did say what you believed, in Christianity, you are not a Christian because your parents are, you are if you accept Christ. Your parents do not make you a Christian.

3. you break up, and find someone else.

Precious7 · May 7, 2015, 10:30 AM

-@ fr_chuck- Kiran is a boy!

Ok now to Kiran,

- Instead of getting married in a church or a temple you both can marry in a court.
- I know these caste system is way too much in that culture, so may be you have to really with patience pursue for her family acceptance for marriage.
- Give it a time of may be one or two year ( whatever you can do), then if they are still not accepting, ask the girl to come with you again, if then also she is not coming then move on.
I think its really not worth fitting then.
There are so many other Christian family in that culture from which you can find God fearing girl, and also there are several Open minded Hindus that don't bother too much about cast system but the happiness of their children.