How can I tell?

sycamorebabe711 · Aug 10, 2005, 05:50 PM

How can I tell if my ex boyfriend still likes me and wants to give it a 2nd chance? I need advice fast so plez help

Wildcat21 · Aug 10, 2005, 08:39 PM

I need several questions answered:

1. Who did the break?

2. How long ago?

3. Why?

4. How long did you go out?

5. How old are both of you?

Wildcat21 · Aug 10, 2005, 08:40 PM

Please guve us any other important details.

fredg · Aug 11, 2005, 06:51 AM

Hi,
Wildcat has asked some good questions.
Why not talk with your ex boyfriend? Just ask him how he feels. If he is honest with you, he will tell you. He may need some time to make up his mind.
Best wishes,
fredg

Wildcat21 · Aug 11, 2005, 07:57 AM

Fred - I fully disagree with you. In a perfect plastic world maybe that would work, not in this world. She needs to learn love tactics. These are not games but clear cut principles in gaining your lover back.

Doing that will only make her look desperate and needy.

People want what they can't have, always.!

There are tactics that need to be used - but first I need these questions answered.

kingping · Aug 11, 2005, 08:24 AM

Originally Posted by Wildcat21

Fred - I fully disagree with you. In a perfect plastic world maybe that would work, not in this world. She needs to learn love tactics. These are not games but clear cut principles in gaining your lover back.

Doing that will only make her look desperate and needy.

People want what they can't have, always.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There are tactics that need to be used - but first I need these questions answered.

Yeah express your feelings and see how far it get's you :D

Wildcat21 · Aug 11, 2005, 08:40 AM

Exactly - especially if your broken up. The real world doesn't work that way - ever.

That's even MORE true when trying to win back a lover. It's a slippery slope in trying win back.

sycamorebabe711 · Aug 11, 2005, 08:42 PM

He broke up with me about 3 months ago because he thought I lied to him and we went out for 4 months

Wildcat21 · Aug 12, 2005, 08:51 AM

Did you lie to him?

I would contact him. Preferably by e-mail - because e-mail they can respond when ever - no pressure.

DO NOT ask any tough questions. NO relationship qiestions.

"Just hi, wanted to see how you were doing - I've so so busy lately. Everything is great hear. Give me a call sometime Take care, -----"

You don't EVER want to sound needy-clingy - jealous etc.

This will take time - baby, steps. No rush. YOU NEED TO BREAK DOWN THE BARRIERS HE HAS BUILT. His guard will be very high and he will think you are trying to get him back.

sycamorebabe711 · Aug 13, 2005, 04:13 PM

No I didn't lie to him and I never will/would it was all my moms fault because she changed her mind at the last min ti take him home and we told him he had a ride home and he did before he came ova but my mom got pissed and said that she wasn't going to take him home so he blamed it all on me so no I didn't lie to him.

sycamorebabe711 · Aug 13, 2005, 04:33 PM

O I'm 14 and he's 16

sycamorebabe711 · Aug 13, 2005, 04:34 PM

O I'm 14 and he is 16