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    SomeRandomTeen Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 20, 2018, 07:02 AM
    How can I start a conversation with her?
    There's this girl in my band class.
    The band consists of 3 boys, our music/band teacher, and her. She's the singer of the band. Literally all I know about her is her name, and that she has a shy and timid nature.
    We haven't talked at all, and there's no time after nor before the band class since she always comes right before the class, and leaves right after it. The only time I'd technically have time to talk to her is behind the scenes when we're somewhere to perform.
    But even then, her mom is always with her.
    Also, I don't have the courage to just go to talk to her and even if I do,
    it'd probably end up being akward.

    My goal for now is to get her number so that I can get in contact with her.

    We're both teenagers and go to different schools.

    She doen't have social media, or any other way to contact her without her number.

    I live in a town with a population of about 500, where as she lives in the suburbs. (About 30 km of distance between us.(18,5 miles))

    Please ask as many questions as you have.

    Thanks <3
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    talaniman Posts: 54,108, Reputation: 10852

    Nov 20, 2018, 07:25 AM
    Have you tried just saying HI? Couldn't hurt to say hi to her mother too. How old are you both?
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    SomeRandomTeen Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 20, 2018, 03:08 PM
    We're both 16, I don't really have time to say hi to her before or after practise. She leaves so quickly I sometimes don't even have rime to see her before she already leaves. I could say hi the next time we perform, but it'll take about 3-2 months and it still isn't guaranteed she'll even go there.
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    Nov 20, 2018, 03:55 PM
    You know, the most important thing is being yourself. Don't even think about pretending someone else, because there's no sense in it. Don't worry about being awkward it'll show that you're sincere.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,108, Reputation: 10852

    Nov 21, 2018, 06:19 AM
    Looks like you have a few things to figure out my young friend. How to say hello to a female that moves rather quickly. You must move quicker, or lose the opportunity. You have been watching long enough to have some ideas of your own by now. Could it be you've never done this kind of thing before?
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    SomeRandomTeen Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 21, 2018, 01:32 PM
    I've talked to girls before but it has always been that I kinda know and have their number already. I've never really had to ask for someones number/talk to someone I don't already know.
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    talaniman Posts: 54,108, Reputation: 10852

    Nov 21, 2018, 02:42 PM
    Maybe see this as a chance to try something new and different from what you are use to. An opportunity to learn and grow whether you get what you want or not. If nothing else how to deal with your own FEAR, and maybe the awkwardness you feel. By trying you at least avoid the feelings NOT trying.

    Make sense? You can't get everything you want but you get nothing if you do nothing for sure. So... get a plan and see what happens... hope for the best, but plan for the worst... and good luck. Please give it thought and let us know what you come up with.
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    GeraldG Posts: 6, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 30, 2018, 05:30 AM
    Maybe consider passing her or her mom a note in which you indicate you like her and would really like to talk to her on the phone. Giver YOUR phone number in the note and ask for hers. I say this because you indicate you lack the courage to say something. While passing a note is not the best way, it may help open the door.

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