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    lovebug2140 Posts: 49, Reputation: -1
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    Oct 21, 2008, 10:23 PM
    How can I make my boyfriend realize how much I love him?
    I honestly love my boyfriend unconditionally. I really do. And I tell him that all of the time, but I feel like I can never get my full point across because its kind of unexplainable.. any ideas? Give me ANYTHING haha.:)
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    Oct 21, 2008, 10:32 PM
    I don't think there's anything you can do!


    He has to realize that on his own
    And when he does that's the day he'll feel all the love you have for him
    Just keep doing what your doing


    You don't have to do anyting big like an overly dramatic gesture just little things!
    And if he loves you as much as you love him then he'll notice them and love you more for it!


    You know!
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    Oct 21, 2008, 10:41 PM

    Thank you so much for replying :)
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    Oct 21, 2008, 10:41 PM

    Make him something.
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    Oct 21, 2008, 10:43 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by 411Help View Post
    Make him something.
    What would be a good thing to make that a guy would really appreciate?
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    Oct 21, 2008, 10:46 PM

    He doesn't need to buy your words, he just has to benefit from your actions. You don't describe any real problem here between you two, so I'll presume all is well. Let it be.

    Sometimes less is more. Stop trying to explain. An earnest "I love you" accompanied by a passionate and playful kiss is all the convincing you need to present.
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    Oct 21, 2008, 10:59 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by lovebug2140 View Post
    what would be a good thing to make that a guy would really appreciate?
    How old is he?
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    Oct 21, 2008, 11:00 PM

    He's 18
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    Oct 21, 2008, 11:12 PM

    Hm, that kind of stumps me. I thought you guys were younger.

    Anyway, how about.. . Treat him for dinner, :). All in all you shouldn't have to do anything to "show" him you love him. But, it's nice every once in a while to do something nice for your special someone.
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    Oct 22, 2008, 08:42 AM

    Relax, just be good to each other, and let your everyday action express your feelings for him.
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    Oct 25, 2008, 10:53 AM
    Depending on how long you've know each other, trusting, caring and communication means a lot. BUT, here's the but... In society today, saying ''I love you'' can get old, especially when said 100 times a day.

    For someone to take this serious it depends on:
    How you say it.
    Where you say it.
    When you say it.

    The circumstances and gestures are important also. When you are walking and he has his arms around you on a wonderful starry night, holding hands.. an I love you is OK.

    But, for instance, if you just had a little spat and you are crying while he is on the way out the door.. saying that you unconditionally love him then does not sound right - it sounds clingy, needy and insecure.

    To love someone unconditionally usually does not even have to be said because by then, you know each other well enough and the bond is strong enough for you both to know how strong the love is between you. When that time comes, believe me, you'll feel it and be secure in the knowledge.

    That's where you come to the 'unexplainable' part. If you feel you constantly have to explain things to him, then you feel that he is not really listening - so you go around in circles of confusion. You should not have to do this to yourself.

    At your age, you should be laughing and enjoying things together, even if it is just a walk in the park or a good movie, or getting together with friends and having a good time.

    You should not worry if he knows that you love him.. if he didn't care for you he'd be gone, so stop being so insecure. Plain and simple, if he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't and there is nothing you or anyone else can make him do.

    However, if you have the feeling that he does not respect you and just spends time with you when he wants, and does not care much about when you want to share time with him and how, I can understand why you might be insecure.

    By what you wrote, there is not much we can go by, as JB said. And as Tal suggested, be good to each other, learn to trust and enjoy the time - don't rush things and you'll do fine.

    So, please tell us, why you think he does not believe you, and why you think you have to really roll over and make him the center of your universe.

    By making him something, I'm sure that 411 probably meant a nice tasty casserole or cake, or brownies - something you know he would like. Or if you are into crafts, make him a belt or a wallet - something like that. When you are together with someone and really 'love' them, you should know what their likes and dislikes are by now, if not, then there is still a lot you need to learn about him before you profess your undying love...

    As I said before, you should be having fun at this time in your life, not stressed about a guy that you'll probably not even remember 10 years from now. I'm not saying this guy is not Mr.Right... just take time and don't rush things. You are just getting started in this partnership..

    Good luck, and keep us posted.

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    Oct 25, 2008, 11:03 AM
    After reading the advice you give on other posts.. you should not need to worry whether he knows you love him, at least not when you are taking your own advice. It sounds pretty good to me, so please just relax and let things happen as they come day by day. But to be honest, I'd loose the 'unconditional love' phrase - nothing in life is a guarantee and you just might change your mind some day.

    Again, good luck.

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    Dec 9, 2008, 02:53 PM

    Sometimes it helps writing the feeling you have down for him when it comes to me writing notes to my boyfriend I explain that I love him so much and if I was to explain how much it were I would run out of all the paper in the world lol as funny as it seems it should make him know that its true love you feel for him. Sometimes looking deep into there eyes without laughing or anything and saying I love you so much eyes are a good way of expressing feelings if you get me I'm sure you want hm to know how much he means to you try it chick

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