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fenderstrummer28 · Jun 3, 2009, 08:15 PM

I went out with this girl about 2 years ago. I was immature and didn't treat her right and I hate myself for it now.

So me and her were recently talking and I brought up the subject about the possibility for us to go out again. She said that since we know each other well, there's really nothing I could give her unless it was something spectacular that she doesn't know about me. I told her, if I could have one more chance with her, id treat her the way she deserved to be treated 2 years ago and that I want to redeem myself to her. I guess she thought it was sweet and she said, "then do it"

What she means by that is if I really wanted her again, I need to show her that I am serious about it. She said she wants me to figure out what I'm supposed to do and see if I can pull it off. She's not promising a relationship out of it if I "pass" but she said she's not going to stop me from trying to get her back.

I generally know what to do... be sweet, caring, be a good friend... what other stuiff should I do though?. talk to her everyday?. any tips?

ISneezeFunny · Jun 3, 2009, 08:20 PM

Originally Posted by fenderstrummer28

she said that since we know eachother well, theres really nothing i could give her unless it was something spectacular that she doesnt know about me.

To be honest, I think this is a mild rejection... somewhat of a "well, I have nothing better to do, but if you can offer me something, then great!"

One of those things where you don't really need/want it, but hey, if it's a great deal, you'll get it.

You shouldn't really "offer" anything other than yourself. Granted, you did "treat her badly" or whatever you feel that means, but really, you shouldn't sell yourself short.

Be her friend, maybe take her out to go somewhere and have a good time.

liz28 · Jun 4, 2009, 07:18 AM

I don't like those "prove to me how much you wanted be with" saying. I hope you got a fat wallet because it seems like she don't what to hear it but see it through the things you buy but still that doesn't mean you will get her back.

People can hear and see it when your desperate and sometimes uses it to their advantage.

You told how you felt and she had the chance to say "yes" or "no" but she didn't.

Romefalls19 · Jun 4, 2009, 09:12 AM

Why should you have to prove anything? You are you, she is she. Imperfections and all, don't try to prove one girl that you're the best man for her. Be the best man for YOU, and the rest will come along.

slapshot_oi · Jun 4, 2009, 12:03 PM

Originally Posted by fenderstrummer28

i went out with this girl about 2 years ago. i was immature and didnt treat her right and i hate myself for it now.

Well that's your problem; hating yourself will get you nowhere, and this is the core-reason for your consideration to pass the test just so you'll be eligible to date this girl again.

But, I think if she didn't want you back she'd probably laugh and tell you to forget it, after two years there's no reason to hold on to old emotions, although some do, but they're also recluses. That being said, she'll most likely date you whether you "pass" or not.

talaniman · Jun 4, 2009, 12:14 PM

I think your relieving your guilt in the wrong way, and she doesn't give a rats behind about you now, any way.

I wish · Jun 4, 2009, 03:14 PM

Sounds like you did something wrong and you have to prove that you are innocent.

These things are suppose to happen naturally. You are completely under her control now: "do things this way... or else..."

You shouldn't be asking us what you should do. If you can't be yourself around her, then she doesn't like you for you.