Okay . I have this problem . The guy I love is married and has a kid (1years old) . He is not happy with his wife because she cheats in front of him . Example, She holds hand and texts her boyfriend in front of her husband . And he's about to divorce her . They married at a very young age . I just found out this recently . The wife sent me a message on Facebook stating . "Take care of him,he chooses u . all that is important to me is that I have my baby." What should I do ? I really love him .

Get ready to allow him to cheat on you. Since he has no issue cheating on this wife, he will have no issue cheating on you.

But you tell him to get back with you after the divorce is final.
The old story, of divorce is seldom true, OK he may divorce this wife, but let it happen, don't be the "other women". Have enough respect to wait till he is completely divorced.

ABOUT TO DIVORCE, means he most likely has not even filed a paper for divorce, he has not moved out from his wife and will leave her bed to jump into yours.

I wouldn't even date him after he is divorced because he will need time to heal. My best friend went through a divorce and even though she initiated it she was devastated and needed time to recover. He can't just jump into another relationship without carrying any baggage and residual feelings. I'm sorry you're in love with someone that is unavailable but time to move on. This is not what you want to hear but don't you want to be with a guy that can give themselves 100%. Walk away... no run. If you're meant to be then maybe some time WAY down the road you'll come together. Until that time date others and put this behind you. Best of luck!

Don't date married guys.

From now on.

How long have you been dating him? You had no idea that he was married and had a child until recently?

If that is the case, then he cheated, lied, and deceived both you, and his wife.

A married man is not free to pursue a relationship with another woman, until he is no longer a married man.

When you start dating a man, you should know upfront whether he is single, married, or divorced.

Like it or not, you are contributing to the end of his marriage, as well as putting his son in the position of being from a broken home. You will also have a relationship with his wife when they divorce, and his son, for the next 20 years or more, as well as contributing to the financial upkeep of support he will have to pay.

How do you know that what he tells you about his wife is the truth. How do you know that she cheated- you take his word for it? How do you know that if you weren't in the picture, there was a chance he could save his marriage?

To love a married man, not yet even separated, who has lied his whole relationship with you, and has made a choice to abandon his family at what will be, great expense and difficulty, is not a great idea.

I advise you to tell him to take care of his business, and be very clear that you do not wish any contact with him whatsoever, until he is free and clear of his marriage, and has had time to adjust to being single.

My guess is, if you do that, he'll stay home with his wife and son, until the next affair comes along.

Plainly put, just wait until he is divorced and the if you choose to hook up with the guy, then do so. But how he handles his current situation with ewifey and baby should be of importance to you (keep an eye on it, if you can) as you may be in this same situation with him in the coming months/years.

RED FLAG

So you would be a rebound for a guy who needs a divorce, from his cheating wife?

That ain't going to last long.