Ok, this is very complicated but bear with me OK? My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a month and things have been going great however, she dropped a bombshell on me today. It turns out that she still has strong feelings for her ex boyfriend who was a jerk. He was her first sex partner and they were pretty close. He also got her pregnant their first time but she had a miscarriage. Despite all this, she still has feelings for him even though its been 2 years since then. I really like her and she says she wants to forget about him but I don't know what to do to make her forget about him. Please help.

You don't do anything, you be yourself have fun, and get to know each other. Time will tell if it works, or not.

Be aware though, if she still thinks about the ex, you better be very cautious, and not get carried way.

Sounds like there's too much baggage & too much effort.

She's been pining over this guy for 2 years.

You just got caught up in it. You'll be dealing with that forever if you try.

Its just a month. Not long enough time to even know someone.

After a month, you are getting a good taste of what she's like.

Beware. I say move on.

Dude don't get over zealous about the situation, just keep it casual and laid back. Women are emotional creatures and they expect for us men to be understanding of feelings, sensitive, and caring. Whatever feelings that you may have for this girl is great because that means that you care for her. Obviously, you've only been dating her for a little while so your not always the way through the tunnel of love which is good for you. It's only been a month or so and so it's cool. This is what you tell her. Hey (insert your girlfriend name here) I know that you still have feelings for (ex boyfriend name here). I think "You" should take some time to sort out your feelings for your ex-boyfriend because I don't want to add any further confusion nor waste "Your" time. Make a clean break and don't see her anymore. Wait 2 weeks and send her a card in the mail... like one of those effing friendship cards don't add any extra wording to it... other than signing it! Call her once in awhile from someplace really fun like a club or from your friend's house or whatever... where you are aving a very good time... Tell her that you were just checking on her (and just like that... just checking on her) because you know that she is going through a difficult time. Keep the conversation brief to no more than 5 minutes. After about a month or two of this BS she will either be dying to see YOU because she realizes what a fool she is and if she doesn't then maybe she went back to her old boyfriend. Either way, your not wasting your time begging like an idiot to be with her and all that crap. And while your doing all the stuff I told you to do, your having fun and life is great and who knows maybe you will meet someone else who doesn't have a bunch of emotional baggage dragging behind them and is probably hotter chick than her!

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