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    ronniiboard Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Apr 4, 2011, 10:57 AM
    I need help with this guy
    So, this guy is in an off and on relationship with another girl for over a year. He broke up with her a day after meeting me. He was very flirty, texted me everyday, he liked me very much. Especially after we hung out a week later, three nights straight. Those three nights he kept telling me he never wanted to leave, he would flirt, make lame jokes, was very cute. He would share his jacket, buy me coffee, we talked on and on, played a little ball on and on. Joked around, his arm was around me all the time.

    Then the morning after the third night, my friend told me that he was in an off and on relationship (I thought it was on the whole time and off for the first) and I got worried I was a temp rebound. So I asked him. And from that point on (over text) he told me that he wants to know what's going to happen between him and this other girl, and would like to get over her since he missed the grieving period. So he told me how amazing I was, and how horrible he feels, how ****ty and an ******* he was. He told me when he was ready he would call me or text me and let me know. A bye for now :(

    What should I do?
    Should I text him and let him know I still want to be friends at least? Is that too needy? Or should I wait till like he text me? Or calls whatever? Or should I fight for him. PLEASE help :/

    Imma lost pup </3 with a broken heart. I reallyy reallyy reallyy like this guy and I know he reallyy reallyy reallyy likes me.
    I'm pretty, by the way haha I'm not some crazy weirdo stalking him :P

    And I can't stop checking my phone for text, I can't go out for a walk cause I know my legs are going to bring me to him :( helppp
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    Apr 4, 2011, 11:09 AM
    It lasted 3 nights, and maybe to you it was a special 3 days but to him you were a rebound, I'm sure that upsets you but its true, he basically said you were a rebound by telling you he didn't get a chance to grieve.

    I say leave this alone, he broke up with his girl a day after meeting you, he is a rat. And you would be foolish to fight for him... who exactly are you fighting against? A 3 days fling versus a one year relationship? And god only knows how many more of you are in between this on/off thing.
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    Apr 4, 2011, 01:29 PM
    Leave him alone... That's really the only thing you can do. It seems he doesn't know what/who he wants - and he will only drag you down with him..
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    Apr 4, 2011, 02:45 PM
    Men have a really weird way of dealing with a break-up and it usually involves finding someone else to turn their attention to.
    Be thankful to him for his honesty when you asked him outright about the rebound thing because regardless of how he seems to feel for you, evidently he does still have feelings for his ex and, for whatever reason, he's going with those ones.
    I know it'll be hard because the three nights were really special for you but the best thing to do is leave him alone for now and get on with your own life- don't text him about friendship just yet, it's a nice thought that you can be friends with someone you love so much but it's usually a lot eaier said than done and you need to heal a bit first.
    If you don't want to go out for fear of turning too stalkerish, then invite your friends over and have a movie night, get your family round for an impromptu get-together and don't mope- look back on the time you spent with him in fondness but don't let them control you.
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    Apr 4, 2011, 09:32 PM

    The big red flag, you falling for a guy that just broke up with his partner THE DAY BEFORE!!

    You better take this as a blessing because those two have unfinished business, and it will be a long time before he is ready to be a good partner to anyone else, IF they break up for good.

    Its simple, leave him alone, and heal yourself. You fell kind of fast for him didn't you?

    Protect your heart.
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    Apr 4, 2011, 10:56 PM

    Have nothing more to do with him.

    He used you as an emotional band-aid to get over his ex;who he clearly wasn't over
    .(Who would be?after one day!)

    You deserve so much better than that.
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    Apr 5, 2011, 09:02 AM
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    I guess I've been with douchy guys all my life, not that it's a long one, and he was the first one that wasn't a d**k, well in theory anyway. So I did fall a little too fast, I understand that now. Thank you a lot. In the end he ended up texting me and I told him the most we could be is friends. I also got upset and told him everything I felt from when he ended things till that night, I was harsh and obsessive I guess but it needed to come out I think.

    Thank you very much!
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    Apr 5, 2011, 09:18 AM

    Good luck,and there are good man out there,trust me!

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