I feel so much regrets in my heart, ending a 1year relationship with my ex-girlfriend. I ended our relationship because I felt it was the best thing to do at that point. I was going through a lot at that point and I felt it won't be fair to string her along, while I know I don't have the capacity to give her all my love, attention and even getting married in the future. I didn't want to hurt her.

After 3 months, I'm still feeling the consequences of my decision. Sometimes I feel so depressed. Sometimes I feel so lonely, Sometimes I can't even sleep at night and Sometimes I just hate myself so much for what I did.

I've missed her so much and I've tried my best possible to beg her and even asked friends to help beg her. But she says no, that she has moved on.

Please Help, I don't know how to cope with this feeling.

Is it true that, If We were meant to be, that she will come back to me ?

Please remember in future relationships that problems in your life -- or in your gf's -- don't mean you break up or even take a break. It means you work together and join your hearts to overcome the problems.

This girlfriend has moved on. Please respect that. You dumped her and have tried to get her back. She said no.

Now it's past the time that you too move on. Get busy and involved in sports or school or a hobby. Go the gym and work out until you sweat. Eat good food and get enough sleep. It will take time, but you must move on!

Sorry guy you chose to face your problems apart rather than together. Have heart though, the beauty of life is when we make a mistake, we learn, and make better choices next time, so get up, and rebuild, and deal with the consequences of your actions by, moving forward and doing better. Not wallowing in crap of your own making. What good is that doing? That's like following one bad decision, with another bad decision.

Now do something good for yourself.

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So this holiday, I've travelled to somewhere far to have fun and also forget about everything. I recently updated my status on Facebook, she sent a message saying she doesn't like it and also she said I never sent her a message to wish her a merry christmas.

Please what is she trying to do here.. because I don't want to play these games... She said she has moved on but why is she so concerned about me and the things I do...

I still have feelings for her... I cannot lie about that.

You're still grieving, and that's normal. Hindsight is 20/20, and you feel as though you made a big mistake, but you didn't. When is the last time you've been out on a date? Seeing other people would probably help you in this situation. Also, STOP trying to get her back, and move on with your life. Why don't you feel like you were able to give her all of your love, attention, marriage? Maybe you should address these problems first; always fix yourself, and then you will be able to concrete yourself in relationships. Lastly, surround yourself with friends/family, because they will support you. And yes, it does seem like she is playing games, and that she is enjoying watching you suffer; you did break up with her, and hurt her after all. Show her that you have moved on too... start doing for YOU, and things that make YOU happy (outside of her). What power will she have over you then?