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    waterforsmurfs Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 28, 2012, 05:01 AM
    HELP! Drunken mistake.
    Hi everyone,

    Id really appreciate some advice on this. I'll keep the story as short as possible.

    I was going out with this guy for one year and we broke up a couple of months back, however we are still crazy about each other and we are still in contact. During our relationship he cheated on me with a girl that I used to be friends with. I was devastated but I was so mental about him that I forgave him and took him back.

    A couple of months ago I broke up with him because he wasn't treating me right at all, I was practically his doormat. This week I went out with some friends, got very very drunk and ended up going home with his younger brother.

    I felt terrible when I woke up. I have no contact with the brother whatsoever and I'm not interested in pursuing an affair or anything like that it was just a mistake. I just pray that it won't get out cause then my ex would never ever look at me again and I don't know if I'm ready to let him go yet. Im so scared. What do I do? PLEASE HELP ME!!

    Any advice is appreciated
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    Sep 28, 2012, 06:01 AM
    Unless you slept with him, don't panic just see what happens. I doubt you can expect the ex not to find out though. You better fess up if you have any intentions of getting back with him though, and maybe the ex likes things the way they are, uncommitted.

    I have to add that I fail to see what taking a guy that cheats and doesn't treat you right is even worth all this, as it seems YOU are more into him than he is you. Doesn't sound very healthy to me to even stay in contact with such a person, hoping he will change his ways.
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    Sep 28, 2012, 06:45 AM
    I did, I slept with the brother and I have such a weight on my chest and Im really upset. My ex wants to get back together with me and he keeps telling me that he loves me and the guilt is just eating me up inside.

    I understand now that I have no choice but to walk away cause I would never want to put him through what I went through when he cheated (although I didn't cheat on him cause we are over). The lies are what killed me and I would never do that to him.

    I just don't want to let go of him. I feel like a monster for what I did :'(
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    Sep 28, 2012, 10:42 PM
    Let him go, and work on yourself so you can be healthy and whole again and can have a healthy and whole relationship some day.

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