Its been almost two years since mine and my ex's 1 year relationship ended, I went through deep depression and was sent to many doctors, I finally got over him and he sent me a instant message on the computer, we talked and became friends, we hunq out a few times and all the old feelinqs came back, he kissed me and we had sex, now I don't no how he feels or what he wants, and I'm back in depression, I don't want to go through this again, but all I want is to be with him and if I can't have him it feels like there's no reason for me to live, I have trouble sleeping at night and I have trouble eating, I'm so confused, I don't no what to do.. :confused:

Help me !

Kayla,

Here is the deal. I understand you love this guy. But, your Boyfriend (and for those girlfriend) is never your life. Never. You need other things in your life that are as equal of importance - work, school, FRIENDS, family, hobbies, church, travel etc.

Your significant other is never your life - they are a part of your life. You need to focus on other things.

You can NEVER, NEVER be needed clingy - OK? You need to be emotionally independent of this person - sure they are important. Once they see this they will cahnge their attitude towards you.

You should never wait by the phone for their call. You don't have to talk wit hthem every day. You don't have to be with them every day.

Do you see anyone else acting all cligy needy that have a successful relationship? Ever?

Hi,
I totally agree with Wildcat.
Your Ex may by with you only for sex.
Your emotional well-being is much, much more important for you to consider.
You really need some new friends, and try getting your mind off this.
I went through one divorce many years ago, after 7 yrs of marriage. My marriage now is going on 29 yrs... second time is better!

Keep concentrating on what is really important in your life, and that is your own well-being, not his or anyone else.
I wish you the best,
fredg